tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post1904580443666053728..comments2024-03-15T02:13:34.645+13:00Comments on Mrs D Is Going Without: Child-free weekends spent blottoMrs Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13110933370498728198noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-88270832818216666402012-02-10T10:42:40.299+13:002012-02-10T10:42:40.299+13:00I'm off to a wedding this weekend - my first s...I'm off to a wedding this weekend - my first sober - will be an experience to share next week!<br />I understand the compulsion to drink until sick when you are given a child free moment. I thought it was entirely normal until 297 days ago...<br />This blog and your writing just goes from strength to strength...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02590086429820461738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-43120245676384119042012-02-09T17:23:29.758+13:002012-02-09T17:23:29.758+13:00thank you so much for being a blogger and sharing ...thank you so much for being a blogger and sharing this journey! I just found your blog tonight and have read the entire thing from start to today. I am on my 21st day of being sober after at least seven years of drinking every day. I am in the "pink cloud" but I am also over-thinking, and alternately feeling terribly bored and sorry for myself and proud and excited for the future. please please keep writing! I am gaining so much from your strength and courage!thirstyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07974401632196648922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-88804959586426800252012-02-09T14:13:43.370+13:002012-02-09T14:13:43.370+13:00They encourage me too and I haven't had the pr...They encourage me too and I haven't had the problems you are describing. I really appreciate the comments as well.<br /><br />I had an experience a few years ago. I have five children, and the eldest was living on his own, and the middle three were on a social outing where they stayed at friends grandparents b&b. We were driving to our do some renovating and I used the time to talk, and it blew up in front of our little girl. The thing that upset me most was that it happened with only one child at home, which to me was nearly like being child free. I was excited by this time nearly alone. I haven't been excited like that since I think. It is just not worth the disappointment and the thing that the other one didn't understand what the time meant. <br /><br />My worked night shift part time when my kids were little. She had this thing that her Mum didn't help her blah blah. I did get her to babysit for a night here and there, but could count all of them. Her part time was over the weekend. <br /><br />I have been asked on fb to go to the pub in my hometown 2 hours away on Friday night. Then my 18 year old daughter who has just started uni asked for money to go to lunch with her friend (she has just moved to the city) I say yes to her, and I think I won't be going to the pub. <br /><br />My friend on fb posted a special deal on a hotel near the beach that has chocolate covered strawberries. I couldn't really see what was special in all of that, the strawberries. After that though my daughter made some in a great recipe on Taste.com.au I realised then it is special. So many things I think are silly that turn out to be nice. I live a long way from the decent shops, and I had bought some new underwear. My hsuband was in the shop and I asked him if they had some the same on the phone. They did but slightly different. I ended up with lace! Do you know what? I will never knock it again. Maybe I just had to be ready for all this stuff. <br /><br />Mary LA I just love your comment. It helps. Makes me feel better about the things I worry about.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17457300221571368059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-90776925459952653902012-02-09T03:34:18.428+13:002012-02-09T03:34:18.428+13:00Oh the memories...or lack thereof. I had those sa...Oh the memories...or lack thereof. I had those same experiences and after your post and the comments above, two things come to mind.<br /><br />1. Oh how I wish I had all that money back. Not the money I spent on booze, the money I wasted on fancy hotels! I could have done the same thing at a cheap hotel - after the first 6 or 7 drinks it really wouldn't have mattered!<br /><br />2. The feeling that I HAD to drink as much as possible or I'd WASTED the weekend...wait...what?<br /><br />I haven't been away with the hubs yet because I wasn't sure about how it would affect my sobriety but I think as soon as we get a little cash together, I'm calling the Ritz Carlton. <br /><br />Thanks Mrs. D for the lovely words. They so encourage me.SoberMomWriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04845259535764391849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-68440658982053628472012-02-08T22:00:29.799+13:002012-02-08T22:00:29.799+13:00You have such a gift of writing Mrs D, you and Mar...You have such a gift of writing Mrs D, you and Mary LA above describe so much of my life before I stopped. I had very few happy memories unclouded by guilt, remorse and shame.<br /><br />It's not like that now.DaisyAnonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12680034482022415405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-35175929968670823192012-02-08T20:19:27.075+13:002012-02-08T20:19:27.075+13:00After a couple of years sober, it struck me just h...After a couple of years sober, it struck me just how much time I had wasted over the years -- holidays, special occasions (friends' weddings), sexual intimacy (sex was drunk and sloppy), films I couldn't recall, meals i couldn't taste because I was drunk, travel experiences all foggy, the number of mornings spent too ill to get up, the number of evenings just a blur, the relationships filled with volatile and erratic dramas, the hours and hours of guilt --<br /><br />So good to be sober.Mary LAhttp://louisey.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-23564953989130544512012-02-08T11:06:24.581+13:002012-02-08T11:06:24.581+13:00TheNoiseandHaste here: You know, it really is quit...TheNoiseandHaste here: You know, it really is quite astounding that you're doing this on your own. Also, I love that you are still able to socialize and enjoy yourself without alcohol. It sounds like a lovely weekend, Candy notwithstanding.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com