tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post3868658143413946404..comments2024-03-15T02:13:34.645+13:00Comments on Mrs D Is Going Without: Hotel mini bars...Mrs Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13110933370498728198noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-81169856464327391082014-08-06T17:50:58.479+12:002014-08-06T17:50:58.479+12:00Hey great! How far along are you? Sounds like we...Hey great! How far along are you? Sounds like we are discussing pregnancy!!!Squizzinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-7609874923615736612014-08-06T13:03:34.677+12:002014-08-06T13:03:34.677+12:00Be strong!Be strong!ForeverFreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08515557564776525315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-12627921572114515912014-08-06T10:53:23.437+12:002014-08-06T10:53:23.437+12:00Thank you Mrs D. Looking forward to the new websit...Thank you Mrs D. Looking forward to the new website. I am now on Day 3. I know the real angst is still awaiting for me. Scared! Thank goodness for the support on the internet and reading your book directed me to all this. I am forming my own blog and will be a member on the new site. Look out for "FOREVER FREE". That will be my name. xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-49479944827188003072014-08-06T08:38:21.157+12:002014-08-06T08:38:21.157+12:00That's a great saying and very fitting for us ...That's a great saying and very fitting for us all! There is another one too that I sometimes replay in my head "the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results"<br />Like drinking as heavily as I did and expecting to wake with no hangover....repeating that every day is insanity!<br /><br />No more though! <br /><br />Squizzi, I'm in Hamilton too, it's a small world :) <br /><br />Have a lovely day :) Kerstinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-2950506323897269152014-08-05T22:04:58.381+12:002014-08-05T22:04:58.381+12:00Thank you soo much Squizi and Mrs A. Your support ...Thank you soo much Squizi and Mrs A. Your support is awesome! Went without the whole day today. Yay! I bought Jason Vale on e books. Was good. I even took notes! Noellenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-69947870580318378922014-08-05T21:38:43.729+12:002014-08-05T21:38:43.729+12:00It's on my fridge too :) well done Squizzi and...It's on my fridge too :) well done Squizzi and a sober nites sleep to us all x Nancy pantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02997306263900201698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-54836413009418289542014-08-05T21:10:33.326+12:002014-08-05T21:10:33.326+12:00What a fantastic saying (not first time I have hea...What a fantastic saying (not first time I have heard it obviously but well forgotten and totally applicable). I am going to write that out and put it on my bathroom mirror. Thank you.Squizzinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-11862713531136307652014-08-05T20:53:39.441+12:002014-08-05T20:53:39.441+12:00Hi Squizzi, what a decision to make! I reckon you ...Hi Squizzi, what a decision to make! I reckon you have made a wise and intelligent decision :) it would be so bloody tempting having it all that wine laid out on a platter - well done! Makes me think of that saying "if you always do what you always did, you always get what you always got" in my case that translates to a thumping big hangover and contempt and disgust at myself the day after - sooooo not worth it Nancy pantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02997306263900201698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-7994839851674336462014-08-05T20:43:38.751+12:002014-08-05T20:43:38.751+12:00Yes I am thank you :)
Yes I am thank you :) <br /><br />Kerstinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-77315763853468601962014-08-05T18:02:47.542+12:002014-08-05T18:02:47.542+12:00Thanks Gee for your support - Yes to both those wo...Thanks Gee for your support - Yes to both those wonderful places - we are Hamiltonians and love the beach! Waiheke now that's a great idea! Mind you I think Waiheke and I think vineyards - maybe Raglan is a better bet!!Squizzinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-60802981949052074542014-08-05T18:00:40.525+12:002014-08-05T18:00:40.525+12:00Thank you Kersti - hmm hope you are all clear now!...Thank you Kersti - hmm hope you are all clear now!squizzinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-73297577899459795112014-08-05T17:59:39.834+12:002014-08-05T17:59:39.834+12:00Hi Squizzi - yep - I reckon you've got it sort...Hi Squizzi - yep - I reckon you've got it sorted! Do the romantic weekend away instead. Ever been to Waiheke Is? Raglan? Your darling has already said he doesn't think you should go to Martinborough.... he wants to keep you happy and healthy and ALIVE. You are almost at 8 weeks sober. Be proud of yourself. You have 'so' made yourself accountable..... right here. Well done to you. Geenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-83807001216651258452014-08-05T17:45:15.253+12:002014-08-05T17:45:15.253+12:00Hey Squizzi,
Good decision, just got to do what fe...Hey Squizzi,<br />Good decision, just got to do what feels right for you. Go with your gut and it's usually right.<br /><br />Cancer and alcohol are not a good mix. I too had a cancer scare....cervical though, but that's another story! <br /><br />You are courageous and I hope you have a wonderful weekend away instead during the festival,<br /><br />Big hugs xxKerstinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-21592360414307413532014-08-05T17:24:12.360+12:002014-08-05T17:24:12.360+12:00Wow thank you guys what a wonderful response! All...Wow thank you guys what a wonderful response! All very worthwhile comments. I haven't mentioned till now cos didn't think it was relevant, but last year I was diagnosed with early stage breast cancer that went to my lymph nodes (apparently it was an aggressive little bugger!) So ironically I have the perfect excuse and reason! We all know that there is a connection between breast cancer and alcohol. When I was first diagnosed I was shocked and scared that I had caused it and I will never know. When I voiced my concerns my friends all said of course not or else we would have breast cancer - but I don't know.<br /><br />So in a funny way I was fortunate enough to be saved from alcoholism (never admitted) by cancer. Chances are I am clear now and will never get it back as long as I follow the lifestyle recommended by experts.<br /><br />I recently celebrated one year clearance. Yah!! However it came with some anguish as they found another tumour a couple of months ago, which was biopsied and so the awful wait for test results. They were the worst 3 days of my life. I was beyond petrified. There is no way I could go through it all again.<br /><br />So this is my motivator. I have been testing out this reasoning on a couple of friends just saying its like playing Russian Roulette and I just can't live like that.<br /><br />I hear you all saying "its a no brainer - and how come she was still drinking the past year at all". Well it just shows you what a hold it had on me.<br /><br />It was my coping mechanism so when I was diagnosed the first thing I did was drink a bottle of wine! I read lots of literature and asked specialists who all told me what I wanted to hear "don't do anything radical re lifestyle changes - a couple of wines won't hurt you - blah blah blah". And I clung to those words. But it wasn't a couple of wines was it, nor was it just occasionally or just on weekends.<br /><br />So I knew I had to do it but it has taken this long to actually pull it off. A whole frigin year. Really!!! Repetitive attempts. Sheer bloody determination, but always the failing. <br /><br />Well not anymore! I will have done 8 weeks end of this week. I think given the importance of this (putting it down in writing is really hitting home as never discussed it in depth before) I shouldn't go to this event. Maybe once I have a lot more time under my belt - but again - its like playing Russian Roulette. <br /><br />Maybe I will plan a lovely romantic weekend away with my husband that same weekend instead, so I don't feel too deprived!!<br /><br />Thank you all for your support - amazing!!!Squizzinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-8943590239968580602014-08-05T12:24:50.577+12:002014-08-05T12:24:50.577+12:00Keep up the good work.If you feel strong enough ju...Keep up the good work.If you feel strong enough just go...tell little white lies if necessary re medication but go and enjoy being the sober one... you can remember all the antics and may even inspire some of the others to moderate.<br /><br />I have had 2 new situations...my daughters birthday( all the family out at dinner) I just ordered a soft drink and nobody noticed/cared then at a friends for lunch..normally have a wine but I just said Im not drinking it dosent agree with me and had a soft drink.<br /><br />Thus 2 hurdles passed.<br /><br />Best thing is the head clarity...<br />You can do it its taken me yearsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-5073635155353523802014-08-05T12:22:05.426+12:002014-08-05T12:22:05.426+12:00Hi Squizzy, that is one hell of a predicament!! Im...Hi Squizzy, that is one hell of a predicament!! Imagine how incredibly proud of yourself you'll feel if you can do that weekend sober! Maybe afterwards you could put the money you would've spent on wine towards some jewellery to always remind yourself how strong you've become. <br /><br />Your posts are always so positive and encouraging, i reckon you're up to the ultimate challenge!Sidnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-19893825873064898622014-08-05T11:43:22.178+12:002014-08-05T11:43:22.178+12:00Squizzi,
Just another thought.
This situation co...Squizzi,<br /><br />Just another thought.<br /><br />This situation could be your biggest nemesis but the people poised to be your greatest support.<br /><br />How about dipping your toe in the water with them with a C.C'd to all coming out email?<br /><br />That way you don't have to fill in the gaps on how they will take it, they get a heads up, you will have accountability and who knows, someone from your lovely group may think PHEW!! ME TOO!!...<br /><br />Kia Kaha.<br />PennyMs Penelope Droppednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-8864382579334825662014-08-05T11:27:11.536+12:002014-08-05T11:27:11.536+12:00Hi Squizzi,
I've been in Hospo all my life (go...Hi Squizzi,<br />I've been in Hospo all my life (got out in my mid 30's to be a mum and now I'm a teacher) in all that time I was drinking wine. <br />We had wine tastings, wine matching with food, wine this wine that! My life revolved around wine.<br />I gave up my nasty wine habit only a few weeks ago so am still being very careful and trying not to be around it much, not because I think I will cave but because I'm not ready to put myself through that yet.<br />It really depends on how strong you feel, a wine festival after all has copious amounts of wine flowing. <br />If it was me I would reconsider going, but at the end of the day it's up to you, where you feel you are at and what benefit is there of you going, other than the challenge of not drinking? <br />Hmmm.... What a dilemma! <br />I'm sure you will chose the right thing for you,<br />Loving your posts too by the way,<br /><br />Kersti Kerstinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-50748322658467724972014-08-05T11:14:14.080+12:002014-08-05T11:14:14.080+12:00Oh I know I'm reading everyone's and want ...Oh I know I'm reading everyone's and want to like them all! Kerstinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-77624904686612217112014-08-05T10:52:51.841+12:002014-08-05T10:52:51.841+12:00Squizzi! Hey there!
Do you think you could do som...Squizzi! Hey there!<br /><br />Do you think you could do something for us? Could you write us two creatively visualised synopsis of how the weekend will play out?<br /><br />One where you imbibe and say "Get the damn cork out of that thing I'm gasping!!!"<br /><br />.........and another where you breezily announce "I'm off the booze, I don't want to miss a minute of this weekend with you guys....I love you all!" and meet the misty eyes of your proud friends: all the while a tiny, itsy-bitsy 'lil' Mrs D sits on your shoulder filing her nails, lying on a miniature sun lounger, several truly shit ladies trashy mags (New World Littlest Shop size) spread on her lap and a teensy weensy mocktail, with a even more miniscule umbrella teetering on the edge of a small pineapple and whispers in your ear "Groovy! You don't need that shit in your life!!".....<br /><br />Do what you need to do my friend.<br />PennyMs Penelope Droppednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-36156691606998068482014-08-05T10:43:10.735+12:002014-08-05T10:43:10.735+12:00Hi Squizzy, that is one hell of a predicament!! Im...Hi Squizzy, that is one hell of a predicament!! Imagine how incredibly proud of yourself you'll feel if you can do that weekend sober! Maybe afterwards you could put the money you would've spent on wine towards some jewellery to always remind yourself how strong you've become. <br /><br />Your posts are always so positive and encouraging, i reckon you're up to the ultimate challenge!Sidnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-85403756612242465792014-08-05T10:36:25.449+12:002014-08-05T10:36:25.449+12:00Sweetie-further reading required, you seem to be f...Sweetie-further reading required, you seem to be flunking Mrs D 101!<br /><br />Denial really doesn't seem to feature in Mrs D's recovery from my reading of her generously offered private internal musings.<br /><br />...."NEED to have a ginger beer in a martini glass"....or......"WANT to have a ginger beer in a martini glass".....<br /><br />Mrs D has abandoned booze not stemware! :-) Rue the day a mother of three boys is only allowed to enjoy the leftover dregs of a child's ginger beer drained from a melamine Thomas the Tank Engine tumbler.<br /><br />Anyway....Mrs D quite obviously doesn't need me to ramble on, on her behalf!<br /><br />Mrs D you really are putting the glamour into sobriety...the face pack, the nails, the treats, the lounging!! I really think you need an antique silk Kimono/lounging coat ASAP to keep the aesthetic rolling.<br /><br />Anyhow-much to do...now Anonymous you need to bend over and I will spank your hairy little Troll bottom....SNAP!!<br /><br />Keep cool Dudes,<br />PennyMs Penelope Droppednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-57934067443789922922014-08-05T10:05:46.611+12:002014-08-05T10:05:46.611+12:00I have the same situation coming up in Oct. Althou...I have the same situation coming up in Oct. Although I feel confident my friends would respect my decision - after all they know precisely the boozer I am. Easy to be confident now when it is still a couple of months away. You could pull the old "I'm on antibiotics trick". A little white lie might give you the breathing space you need to get your way through the weekend and prove to yourself you can do it. Which I know you can.xA longtime overduenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-5100166067080254802014-08-05T10:02:42.468+12:002014-08-05T10:02:42.468+12:00That is so funny - how does she do that?! I agree ...That is so funny - how does she do that?! I agree and the boozer in me, thinks why even bother, where's the fun in one small glass. And the boozer in me wishes I could do just that. Sadly no, all or nothing!A longtime overduenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-86753732001405057872014-08-05T09:06:36.666+12:002014-08-05T09:06:36.666+12:00Hiya Squizzi
What a tricky situation. I like you h...Hiya Squizzi<br />What a tricky situation. I like you have those thoughts all the time. Maybe if I just have one tonight and then go back to being sober. The other week I was cooking, and put some red wine in the meal. I figured teh booze burns off so will be ok. but having that bottle sitting next to me was to much of a tempation. I poured my partner a glass, and lifted it to my lips for a taste. Something stopped me though, and I know once I had drunken it i wouldn't have stopped. And then it would be back to square one. And me saying to myself, oghh I will start again tomorrow, and tomorrow will never come.<br />I know I can't trust myself, so have to stay sober. You can't worry about being everyone else's entertainment, they say those things because they enjoy your company, but don't understand the pain you are going through. <br />Be strong and listen to your head, I am sure you will make the right choice for you...Martin Tonkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02914751943616177931noreply@blogger.com