tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post7587611582404196939..comments2024-03-15T02:13:34.645+13:00Comments on Mrs D Is Going Without: Grumpy as hell...Mrs Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13110933370498728198noreply@blogger.comBlogger62125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-90276625610097468252014-07-12T08:02:42.499+12:002014-07-12T08:02:42.499+12:00OMG, that was me who asked the question about bein...OMG, that was me who asked the question about being an addict. And here I am - almost there (what's stopping me?). I started a blog so I can be part of the online community - and now all I need to do is say "enough" and stop.Colourful1https://www.blogger.com/profile/16877984517382319345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-6114480867607997252014-07-11T06:04:24.535+12:002014-07-11T06:04:24.535+12:00Thank you :))Thank you :))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-12433235765524031652014-07-10T17:58:53.912+12:002014-07-10T17:58:53.912+12:00I told my friend and she said "good luck with...I told my friend and she said "good luck with that lol"- RUDE haha- she doesn't want me to give up I think and pretty sure she struggles to stop after a couple so may not want to take me seriously.. Told another friend that must of IGNORED me as then invited me over for wine! So, normal in my circles anyway...4 day weekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05758922356005739347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-51189781594469245802014-07-10T17:39:34.072+12:002014-07-10T17:39:34.072+12:00Please talk to your broker they will guide you. Please talk to your broker they will guide you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-89715680134339524782014-07-10T16:36:34.252+12:002014-07-10T16:36:34.252+12:00Lilly, I hope you can find the support you need ei...Lilly, I hope you can find the support you need either here on the sober blogs or at meetings, or wherever. Nobody deserves to feel broken. Alcohol makes me angry too -- it robs people of so much health and joy and self worth. But we can beat its sorry ass!! Sue Kerrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07569178603238739003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-38935322797195314502014-07-10T16:19:18.578+12:002014-07-10T16:19:18.578+12:00It's probably normal for a couple of types of ...It's probably normal for a couple of types of people:<br />Someone who has no idea at all how immense and important this decision is to you -- maybe a non-problem drinker, or someone who has no idea about dependence -- they might think it's just not a big deal.<br /><br />Or, a person who's got an issue themselves, and doesn't want to face it or examine it. Talking with you about it would bring up their stuff, and they don't want to go there.<br /><br />I found it really lonely when I quit drinking... there were not many people in my life who were as fascinated about my decision, and as rivetted as I was!! What's important is that it's precious to you -- precious enough to guard with all your might! And people around the sober blogs are interested and supportive. Sue Kerrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07569178603238739003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-47623680397855516212014-07-10T12:21:03.515+12:002014-07-10T12:21:03.515+12:00Annonymous, 7;31am, Do not be discourage by your f...Annonymous, 7;31am, Do not be discourage by your friend, especially if he/she is one of your drinking buddies. Through my experience and also what I have heard from long time sobriety friends, is that some of our drinking buddies don't want us to give up. Circumstances may be that they feel better if we drink with them. Or they may be in denial about how much they drink and we might be making them feel guilty about how much they drink. Or they simply think we might be a bit 'boring' with out the booze. Whate ever the case,it really doesn't matter in the end. this is our life, the way we choose to live it. New sober friends will enrich our lives and encourage us to stay sober. I have family members who refuse to accept that I am an alcoholic. This too is normal. Just keep going... we have made a great and brave decision. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11309620612102096326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-30514321465995572862014-07-10T08:52:58.946+12:002014-07-10T08:52:58.946+12:00Hi Hope- I wonder if we just cancelled our current...Hi Hope- I wonder if we just cancelled our current life insurance then when with a new one afresh and answered everything accurately this would be the answer? Bit nervous in the event of a claim they would look up previous insurers and see discrepancies though? Maybe just be honest with current? Think they would most likey just charge us a higher rate and there will be arrears for this? I have been worrying about the exact same thing re if I die no pay out for my son..4 day weekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05758922356005739347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-18220081706086518852014-07-10T07:34:29.060+12:002014-07-10T07:34:29.060+12:00It seems it stuffs with all our heads in the same ...It seems it stuffs with all our heads in the same way. We have bravely escaped an abusive relationship, we should never go back!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-71534089692897375352014-07-10T07:31:07.549+12:002014-07-10T07:31:07.549+12:00Just told first friend that I've stopped drink...Just told first friend that I've stopped drinking, she expressed surprise, then just IGNORED the issue. Really disappointed. Is this a normal reaction?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-59681938324604798602014-07-10T07:14:21.580+12:002014-07-10T07:14:21.580+12:00I haven't been counting the days but coinciden...I haven't been counting the days but coincidentally stopped on the 1st July so easy to remember. Finding things relatively easy, just don't really think about it. I am eating more though, but look at all those wine calories that are no longer being consumed! Now reading Jason Vale again just to keep that sensible approach in my head. Have ditch an abusive relationship, what's to miss?! Mrs D and everyone here are all so strong and amazing. Go us!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-32392856749153132082014-07-10T01:04:03.914+12:002014-07-10T01:04:03.914+12:00Hi zulu and anon 1:15. It was nice of you both to...Hi zulu and anon 1:15. It was nice of you both to take the time to reply. It helped! I might read that Jason Vale book. In my first month, I wanted sweet stuff too and I was a person who prided myself on not having a sweet tooth. But it soon subsided and I feel back to normal in that respect. Now I do let myself have occasional treats with the calories which would otherwise have been consumed in wine. But I have lost about 4 pounds which people have noticed so that's also really positive. Drinking lots of tea too (which I did anyway) but now really crave it at certain times of the day. I will think about not counting the days. I want to do anything that will help to keep me motivated. Reading stuff from you guys helps me more than you can imagine. Stay strong all of you and be proud of yourselves. Finallyfreetobemehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15774348506335992752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-60078788985319838542014-07-09T23:20:23.314+12:002014-07-09T23:20:23.314+12:00I have similar worry gnawing away at me. Told life...I have similar worry gnawing away at me. Told life insurance peeps at the nurse interview, that was normal drinker....but then sought help few months later and it went on my record. so now 7 years on I wonder if im wasting my money paying for insurance that might be dishonoured. ..and puts me off asking for any more help. Do I cancel my life and medical insurance? Imagine if I died and life insurance wasnt paid out for my kids because of my deep secret. Awful.hopenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-56008520951284384662014-07-09T20:53:50.803+12:002014-07-09T20:53:50.803+12:00Quit the counting, and count the lesson. Great to ...Quit the counting, and count the lesson. Great to learn in a safe controlled situation that it felt like shit. I gave in a week after starting to finish a part opened bottle, just like you I felt shit (not the partaking mind, I loved it!! just the next morning). Not finding this easy. Keep posting, keep reading and hang in there!A longtime overduenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-30770279412252827042014-07-09T20:49:06.058+12:002014-07-09T20:49:06.058+12:00Thank you for your post - I stopped counting about...Thank you for your post - I stopped counting about a week ago because I didn't feel it was helping. What I keep reminding myself is I have drunk solidly for nearly 30 years, certainly 20 with considerable enthusiasm. Maybe in 20 years when the kids have left home I might indulge once again. I am reading every word too.A longtime overduenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-82713153694521694622014-07-09T19:50:18.672+12:002014-07-09T19:50:18.672+12:00Hi out there. Hi Tina:). I really liked your comme...Hi out there. Hi Tina:). I really liked your comments Anonymous 1.15pm about not counting. Thanks, just what I needed right now. I count June 23rd as my freedom date. Have had a couple of wines since - but something shifted inside me on the 23rd when Mrs D talked to the nation and the world and said exactly what I needed to hear :). A few people have said they are having sweet cravings - me too! A dry white was as sweet as I used to get! I've decided to roll with it and am now a connoisseur of Lindt chocolate (recommend the new lime zest flavor!!) with a strong cup of tea. Also becoming a tea connoisseur - Yorkshire tea is hard to beat! Man I love that I get excited about my evening cuppa now!! xzulunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-31664234607313489052014-07-09T17:38:38.712+12:002014-07-09T17:38:38.712+12:00to be on the safe side always ask your brokers adv...to be on the safe side always ask your brokers adviceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-72142240539244648192014-07-09T17:04:00.175+12:002014-07-09T17:04:00.175+12:00yes. They also usually have a question what mediat...yes. They also usually have a question what mediation you are on, natural or prescried. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-40993585024758961332014-07-09T13:15:08.175+12:002014-07-09T13:15:08.175+12:00Hi finallyfreetobeme, I am part way through readin...Hi finallyfreetobeme, I am part way through reading Jason Vale's book- kick the drink easily (recommended on Mrs D's blog), I wanted to share with you what he says about counting! Don't count! Because we are now free why would you count! He says that we count as if we are in a prison and that by counting we are actually in kind of a way tormenting ourselves, flip it around- we, should have counted the days we were drinking cos that was the sentence. Not sure if this helps? Anyway go you! I found your comments very helpful. I have read every word that Mrs D has ever written on her blog - man oh man, just what I needed to get some perspective, insight and support into this alcohol bullshit. I'm only 2 weeks off the wine, but who's counting? Um, er.... I'm trying not too. All the best to all of us and a huge mihi to Mrs D - Kia kaha wahine toa! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-73511911659171287392014-07-09T09:18:38.644+12:002014-07-09T09:18:38.644+12:00Hey I am starting to see a connection here: cookin...Hey I am starting to see a connection here: cooking tea drives us to drink!! So lets give up cooking tea for a year? (I am joking)4 day weekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05758922356005739347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-61165398109335235552014-07-09T09:06:06.305+12:002014-07-09T09:06:06.305+12:00Hi I think its great you again realised that you d...Hi I think its great you again realised that you don't need alcohol to have a good time and it makes you sick in the morning- (of course you didnt need to have another to know that) but sometimes we need reminding. You go for it and remember that morning any other time you are toying with the idea of having a few!! Ya dont have to start counting again in my opinion its not a competition- you can now tell yourself you have not drunk for 70, then 80, then 120 plus days etc except for the one evening- and well that's the truth!! Go YOu4 day weekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05758922356005739347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-27895564649975348302014-07-09T09:01:36.398+12:002014-07-09T09:01:36.398+12:00owh are we talking of NZ insurance?owh are we talking of NZ insurance?4 day weekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05758922356005739347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-80511254238560160662014-07-09T02:03:25.034+12:002014-07-09T02:03:25.034+12:00I am also tired of feeling broken :(I am also tired of feeling broken :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-3202884880332158402014-07-09T01:53:16.559+12:002014-07-09T01:53:16.559+12:00I am tired of waking up in the night feeling miser...I am tired of waking up in the night feeling miserable from drinking too much, I am tired of worrying about my drinking and feeling disappointed in myself yet again. I am tired of thinking about wine. I am tired of wondering if others notice I hide it. I am tired of hangovers the next day. I love the rawness of your book Lotta. It actually makes me get angry at alcohol and for once I want to deal to it. I am just so tired of battling with it. Your book is so real. Fantastic and a huge thank you. Gives you a great big hug. (52 female)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-37405184939722739742014-07-09T01:44:50.694+12:002014-07-09T01:44:50.694+12:00I feel like I need someone to off-load to....and s...I feel like I need someone to off-load to....and since this journey that I am on has been a totally private one to date, I hope that by writing about it here, knowing that someone may read it and and not judge me - I will feel better. I have been alcohol free for about 75 days(ish). I've known for a long time that something had to change but circumstances (long story) recently occurred and I stopped drinking completely. And it really wasn't hard for me. I didn't struggle and I think that is largely because of how much better I feel when I am not drinking. The physical and mental/emotional improvements have been utterly astonishing. So motivation has remained consistently high. Reading blogs like this has provided all the support I have needed. Anyway, last week-end we went on a camping trip which had been planned with friends for a long time. I had decided that I would allow myself to have a few drinks on one of the evenings, which I did. I have never really tried to moderate my in-take before so didn't know if this alcohol-free thing was something I was doing for now, or forever. But I think that lack of pressure helped me to stay in control. Anyway, I had a few drinks like everyone else did and enjoyed it. But let me tell you, when I woke up in the morning I felt like shit. And I can now honestly say that I don't need to drink to enjoy a party. I have been to several social events in the past 70+ days and had no alcohol. It has been such a good lesson for me. I can simply choose to be alcohol-free because it seems to agree with me better than alcohol does. It is such a logical choice. I think I'm getting closer to a decision to make this lifestyle change a permanent one. Any thoughts from anyone out there? I feel a bit deflated that I have to start counting all over again........like I let myself down. But on the other hand, it wasn't a lack of willpower as much as me wanting to see how I'd feel. Don't even know if that makes sense. Anyway, onwards and upwards I guess. Thanks for listening out there....Finallyfreetobemehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15774348506335992752noreply@blogger.com