tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post8539887251759640410..comments2024-03-15T02:13:34.645+13:00Comments on Mrs D Is Going Without: Honesty at the Book Store...Mrs Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13110933370498728198noreply@blogger.comBlogger67125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-405233034024094802014-08-01T17:36:30.881+12:002014-08-01T17:36:30.881+12:00Hear hear. I like your line "It's because...Hear hear. I like your line "It's because I'm an alcoholic and externalizing my internal struggle keeps me sober" and agree wholeheartedly. Edenhttp://thelatestarter.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-68480029770983767522014-07-29T05:05:20.087+12:002014-07-29T05:05:20.087+12:00inthegarage66/Squizzi,
It wasn't so much that...inthegarage66/Squizzi,<br /><br />It wasn't so much that I chose not to socialise with them because they drank (although there is a little bit of that to it especially their really drunken phases), it was more about the new man I became. I didn't have anything in common with them anymore. My healthy, spiritual way of thinking just didn't fit in. So I lost friends that way. But never worry I am on the look out for new ones!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02344144789543030109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-349872739241712432014-07-28T19:54:19.513+12:002014-07-28T19:54:19.513+12:00Thanks for the amazing stuff you are doing. It has...Thanks for the amazing stuff you are doing. It has made a real impact on me and I am about 3 weeks (and 2 big social occasions) along in my journey of no alcohol. Have you seen Brene Brown's TED talk on the power of vulnerability?<br /><br />https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerabilityAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-89008819970107348142014-07-28T15:36:03.240+12:002014-07-28T15:36:03.240+12:00So very well said and distinctively put. I second ...So very well said and distinctively put. I second that..... Martin Tonkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02914751943616177931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-73889898621633927902014-07-27T21:08:06.589+12:002014-07-27T21:08:06.589+12:00Hi Mrs D I was at your book launch, and thought yo...Hi Mrs D I was at your book launch, and thought you were absolutely fantastic. So brave and honest with us.<br />Whoever the rude witch at the book launch was who kept wanting it to be her night, you were magnanimous with your replies to her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-46054746745414281392014-07-27T19:46:23.805+12:002014-07-27T19:46:23.805+12:00Hi there anonymous. I'm really sorry you feel...Hi there anonymous. I'm really sorry you feel like that. For me, the sober world is not crap. It's empowering. It's liberating. Because I'm in charge of me. I'm in control of me. In my drinking world, it was the booze that was in charge of me. It took hold of me, and I craved it. More and more. I told my family lies after lies after lies. Sure it's hard. Around 5.00 is the hardest. But I keep reminding myself of what it used to feel like. OK, so the first few drinks were fun. Tasted great. The effect was magic. But after drink number 9 or 10 or 11 was when I started to feel like shit. And that feeling continued for the next 24 hours. I am soooo glad that those horrible feelings have gone. It's not easy. It's one day at a time. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-26675451393273007422014-07-27T16:34:37.872+12:002014-07-27T16:34:37.872+12:00Hi Mrs D
Totally relate to the shit eating - o my ...Hi Mrs D<br />Totally relate to the shit eating - o my god carbs & sugar. When I was drinking it was Sav Blanc and salad - health health sweety ;-/ <br />I'm up to about day 40 and I can't believe my cravings for cookies and sweet crap, never felt like eating that stuff. Anyhoo - keep running into folks mentioning 'The Mood Cure' by Julia Ross. I have also uncovered mild depression by stopping drinking and it sucks - so have been looking for natural cures - St Johns Wort, Sun-e, 5HTP, etc. You can read most of the book at Amazon, and check out the 4.5 star review with over 220 reviews. Keep on rocking lovely ladyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-6724133983459478252014-07-27T16:16:54.807+12:002014-07-27T16:16:54.807+12:00I hear you Charlie... cooking dinner for the famil...I hear you Charlie... cooking dinner for the family and usually polish off a bottle while doing it.... 4pm onwards is the hardest for me as well. I just keep thinking of the progress I have made. Never thought I would get passed day 1Martin Tonkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02914751943616177931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-70848438019767230972014-07-27T16:07:10.742+12:002014-07-27T16:07:10.742+12:00Thanks Mrs D! You have started something huge.I be...Thanks Mrs D! You have started something huge.I bet there are kiwi Mums galore ditching their Sav (Chardonnay for me) .A really massive,life changing event.So very scared but here we go.A week in and being brave.Thanks so much and I hope I can find fun again one day.xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08475730183599474615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-20881024443282663322014-07-27T15:56:46.145+12:002014-07-27T15:56:46.145+12:00I love you, Mrs. D! Going through this life sober,...I love you, Mrs. D! Going through this life sober, too. Also feeling vulnerable and full of longing. We're in this together.Sanfransoberhttp://sanfransober.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-72991055201207448022014-07-27T15:46:38.559+12:002014-07-27T15:46:38.559+12:00Wow,I'm day 7 too! Roast dinner in the oven an...Wow,I'm day 7 too! Roast dinner in the oven and I know I won't I won't be having that glass (or 4) of red with it.Mornings I'm great it's 4pm onward that I just want the day to be over.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08475730183599474615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-7782026798847491692014-07-27T15:15:49.913+12:002014-07-27T15:15:49.913+12:00Wish being sober was like doing weight watchers, w...Wish being sober was like doing weight watchers, where you could save up your points and then eat something you shouldnt. But with the boring old sober world you cant.Am so missing everything about being drunk. This is crap.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-20052130044107866352014-07-27T12:46:13.909+12:002014-07-27T12:46:13.909+12:00Read the AUS WW article at the hairdresser. So ins...Read the AUS WW article at the hairdresser. So inspired by you Mrs D and love the onesie idea. Mrs Mnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-82172470943604100452014-07-27T10:17:37.303+12:002014-07-27T10:17:37.303+12:00Good for aint it grand waking up so clean and clea...Good for aint it grand waking up so clean and clear headed. I luv it. Took my lovely boxer for a long walk at 8 this mornong, she thought it was xmas, no way would i do that with a hangova. I know that song well use 2 listen to that drunk!! Day 29 for me woo hoo. We are the sober revolution, pink clouds galore!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-41126252407289410182014-07-27T09:47:10.226+12:002014-07-27T09:47:10.226+12:00Hi Mrs D and Friends
Day 7. In my diary. In pen....Hi Mrs D and Friends<br />Day 7. In my diary. In pen. Sunday morning. Best part of this morning was the sober Saturday night. Magic. The words of the song “When I woke up Sunday morning with no way to hold my head that didn’t hurt…” Not for me. Not this Sunday. Hang in there team, we can do this!! <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-80222716385527733962014-07-27T08:46:27.456+12:002014-07-27T08:46:27.456+12:00I think that winter can stuff up your good eating ...I think that winter can stuff up your good eating habits. That and loneliness. I suppose the need to comfort ourselves with food is similar to what we all did with alcohol. But you do feel a whole lot better when you nourish your body with good food. You don't get those insulin spikes that come from too much sugar and carbs. I've just read the article in The Australian Women's Weekly, and I love the idea you suggested of putting on a onesie when you need a hug - just the excuse was looking for to buy one! Be kind to yourself this week.NoMorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13696242829947239031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-82697685115291686782014-07-26T23:08:59.876+12:002014-07-26T23:08:59.876+12:00Just wanted to say that I too was at the bookshop ...Just wanted to say that I too was at the bookshop on Thursday night. Mrs D - you were just great and so realThe fact that you shared your vulnerability with us was pretty amazing. I think we are all blessed to have you in our lives. Not that I want to put you up on a pedestal in a stalker kind of way but I think it's pretty clear you have made the hugest difference to so many of us. I have worried about my drinking for too many years to count. I recently decided to do 'Dry July' for a break, but then I saw you on TV and since then have been following your blog, and have discovered this fantastic online community. I am NOT going back on the booze next month. My thinking is changing. I feel empowered, and not so lonely! Thank you Mrs D, and to all your lovely supporters and followers. What a special bunch. Day 26 (predictably :P) for me. Go all of us!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-58296652205528471472014-07-26T21:46:02.594+12:002014-07-26T21:46:02.594+12:00Hi there, I was fortunate enough to go to the book...Hi there, I was fortunate enough to go to the bookshop and you were amazing. You did not seem nervous at all. Loved what you said about the party not being in the glass but in the people in the room. Thanks so much for an inspiring night and a fantastic mulled apple juice. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-89404601315719291902014-07-26T21:12:43.151+12:002014-07-26T21:12:43.151+12:00Just starting up to day 6 but getting great satisf...Just starting up to day 6 but getting great satisfaction out of ending the day dry.... Love the Blog it was the TV program that made me look at me but it took a few weeks to carry it out Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-23008851766567139882014-07-26T18:54:47.425+12:002014-07-26T18:54:47.425+12:00Kia ora Mrs D, haven't stopped reading every w...Kia ora Mrs D, haven't stopped reading every word hear (from you and the supporters) - still magic. I am a huge fan of Brene Brown - she has some you tube TEDX talks and three great books - she talks, researches and writes about Vulnerabilty - have a look - it might help you? Adopt the same approach you have with alcohol to food? One day at a time, look for good alternatives and try new strategies - eating well is hard at first (it's change) - but eating well is sooooooooo good - it's another incredible journey to get on (just another chapter in your amazing life) - go get it sista it's all yours - this one and only vulnerable, precious and most lovefilled life! Kia kaha! Love your work.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-69477916593368616122014-07-26T16:29:00.846+12:002014-07-26T16:29:00.846+12:00Thanks, Breezi's Spirit!Thanks, Breezi's Spirit!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-70303488885159100622014-07-26T14:34:22.085+12:002014-07-26T14:34:22.085+12:00"It wasn't fun anymore" resonates wi..."It wasn't fun anymore" resonates with me too. Its the truth. Its such a great mantra when the monster growls. Visualising the clear-headed morning is another tool I use with great success, and of course reading all of these comments and support and incredible inspiration. Jason Vale's book is superb - can't recommend it enough. Sobriety rocks!<br />soberandsmilingnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-92074655678902608792014-07-26T12:39:05.722+12:002014-07-26T12:39:05.722+12:00Hi, I just wanted to say that facing up to alcohol...Hi, I just wanted to say that facing up to alcohol problems alone is a huge thing to do. It will be taking up heaps of your psychological energy, and your body will take more time to adjust to the changes you have made. You can deal with the eating if you feel you need to later on. Maybe much later on. You need to go easy on yourself where you can (with your expectations of yourself with regard to food), so that you can focus on the alcohol removal, and fully appreciate the good work you have done. As the saying goes... Rome wasn't built in a day!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-18411449829423974852014-07-26T12:35:44.162+12:002014-07-26T12:35:44.162+12:00I agree I am determined to strengthen my friendshi...I agree I am determined to strengthen my friendships rather than risk losing them so I am arranging little social gatherings whether one on one or small groups but mainly doing it during the day. Tomorrow I am meeting 3 of my drinky girlfriends for a walk around the river and a coffee after and I am really looking forward to it.Squizzinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-73281026506713161572014-07-26T11:58:36.738+12:002014-07-26T11:58:36.738+12:00Hey P-J,
Intense.
There but for the giggling of ...Hey P-J,<br /><br />Intense.<br /><br />There but for the giggling of the goblins goes many of us my friend.<br /><br />I'm sure I used to drink sometimes to deal with the post traumatic stress of previous drinking episodes. Using the medicinal looney juice to block out the guilt and embarrassment (not shame!...! I was just being Rock 'n' Roll, not dysfunctional....right?....Riiiiiight.) I had played out for myself on some previous bender.<br /><br />P-J. Those hideous experiences are not you. They are not your core. They are just traumatising, horrible things that have happened.<br /><br />We can turn this jaggernaut round damnit! With the wonderful Mrs D and crew we can all learn to live in our complicated, sensitive, wonderful skins.<br /><br />The best bit, we can do it with style and integrity.<br /><br />Keep cool,<br />PennyMs Penelope Droppednoreply@blogger.com