tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post1462184588919959696..comments2024-03-15T02:13:34.645+13:00Comments on Mrs D Is Going Without: Vulnerable? Odd? Not sure...Mrs Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13110933370498728198noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-48470960537120589762012-08-24T15:38:02.565+12:002012-08-24T15:38:02.565+12:00I struggle with my wine intake so reading your blo...I struggle with my wine intake so reading your blog tonight has been... interesting! <br /><br />What I wanted to say was the year my mother died, the days leading up to it I felt like I was going crazy. Mourning is a weird process and you may be in mourning for the drinking. Anything that has been a part of your life for so long has to be missed whether it was good or not.<br /><br />Good luck!!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-14509185784649487382012-08-18T03:35:16.619+12:002012-08-18T03:35:16.619+12:00I can relate to the ciggies as a treat, For me th...I can relate to the ciggies as a treat, For me they are also a way to show a bit of the rebel. Nobody in my life would care less if I smoke a couple, but for me they are still baaad and therefore attractive. Now to think of other baad and attractive things............? Cant bring myself to read more than the first chapter of "50 Shades" because the writing is so bad (but not in a good way bad) but I believe it has some good ideas....<br />I so want your soberversary to be all happiness and wonderful like the self help books. But we do know dont we that that is cliche and this is real life. Hope you are feeling better today.....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-77694824568280018992012-08-17T02:28:52.759+12:002012-08-17T02:28:52.759+12:00Yes Mrs D, you are clever and strong and anyone wh...Yes Mrs D, you are clever and strong and anyone who knows anything about alcoholism is very proud of you.<br /><br />You deserve a treat on your first soberversary. Is a cigarette a treat? Will you have one or two and throw away the rest?<br /><br />Have you reread the comments you received on your last foray into smoking?<br /><br />Sober anniversaries can be hard especially the first. Something in us wants to breathe a sigh of relief and think, 'Wow, we climbed that mountain, now lets have a drink' My first was fine but my second was hard.<br /><br />A lot of AA meetings have cakes and cards and applause and chips (little medals, not potato products) when people have anniversaries.<br /><br />The loners like you have a harder time. But we will celebrate with you.<br /><br />My husband said at my first anniversary - 'how will you celebrate?' Hard to convey the tone but it was jokey/sarcastic. I just ignored it but it was hard.<br /><br />Interesting that Mr D is drinking more at this time too. My husband continues drinking although he is not alcoholic, but my not drinking definitely changed the dynamic of our relationship. Not exactly badly but a change.<br /><br />One good thing, he gave up smoking when I gave up drinking. I gave up smoking over 15 years ago but he continued.DaisyAnonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12680034482022415405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-64397675426496145642012-08-16T19:42:14.091+12:002012-08-16T19:42:14.091+12:00Nothing would ever make me smoke. Unless I was on ...Nothing would ever make me smoke. Unless I was on fire. <br /><br />Perhaps I need to develop some other dodgy habit just in case...I could start enjoying cookies, they seem popular right now! Take care mrs d, Paul.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-78209373607176515642012-08-16T10:27:57.066+12:002012-08-16T10:27:57.066+12:00Mrs D . . . Yes Wow infucking deed!! You are stron...Mrs D . . . Yes Wow infucking deed!! You are strong and sober and clever.<br />Which is far better than drunk, unreal and just thinking you're clever (as we do when we're drunk) . . . So good for you.<br />I did enjoy your last paragraph though ;-)<br />One year is huge, a lifetime. <br />Love sent xbugerlugs63https://www.blogger.com/profile/08598249255143939365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-17286144242808236432012-08-16T01:40:51.845+12:002012-08-16T01:40:51.845+12:00The week or so leading up to my one-year mark was ...The week or so leading up to my one-year mark was a rough one. I don't know why, but it got better and has been pretty even since. Not to say I'm out of the woods or ever will be. I think that tenuous, vulnerable feeling is healthy because then I don't forget that I can't drink normally. And my husband drinks nightly too...he had a big honking glass of red wine last night and I looked at it a couple of times last night and hated it or more accurately the way I still want it sometimes. But not that bad. I want what I have more than that nightmare. Hugs to you...I'm happy for where you are, but also feel for the turmoil because it hurts until it doesn't anymore. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-53524506432357005582012-08-15T19:45:33.319+12:002012-08-15T19:45:33.319+12:00i'm glad for your honest sharing of a shitty t...i'm glad for your honest sharing of a shitty time. it reminds me to be aware, even when i'm nearing one year. that we still have triggers, that things can still make us feel wingy. i know you don't want to be our kind and gentle WARNING ... you want smooth sailing. Here, i'll send you some. here's some smooth sailing headed your way ... [the cigarette after all that time off will probably taste disgusting and make you feel light-headed and nauseous. blech.] I think everyone would agree that you deserve a treat. ice cream, tea, facial, manicure. after the cigarette and the redbull, make sure you get a REAL treat, one that says "fucking good job for doing this, as hard as it is." Love to you :)Belle (Tired2012)http://www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-62305231020803345992012-08-15T14:38:37.292+12:002012-08-15T14:38:37.292+12:00Then I'll have another ice cream sandwich, you...Then I'll have another ice cream sandwich, you might look all thin and cool smoking your ciggie but at least I won't have those old lady smoker lips. Actually, I already have them and it really pisses me off since I've never smoked.<br /><br />This too shall pass.Kary Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12674442468925628974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-67987950037353111212012-08-15T12:55:47.212+12:002012-08-15T12:55:47.212+12:00Okay... is it the 8th of Sept? Ciao.Okay... is it the 8th of Sept? Ciao.Neetzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06881895043267581777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-15917594159585589192012-08-15T12:53:11.873+12:002012-08-15T12:53:11.873+12:00Alright... if you're going to...then I'm g...Alright... if you're going to...then I'm going to have my first ever smoke for you too!!<br /><br />(Actually no I'm not, I am so square I couldnt think of anything worse... lol).. <br /><br />Now, don't get me back on to what IIIII think you should be replacing the booze with....!!! haha. I said it once (and was in the good books with Mr D!). <br /><br />What is your ACTUAL sober-versary date again? (perhaps I shouldn't be so lazy and go look at your first post aye?) haha. See ya.Neetzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06881895043267581777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-263752080650204512012-08-15T11:28:11.403+12:002012-08-15T11:28:11.403+12:00Hang in there girlie! You are vulnerable right no...Hang in there girlie! You are vulnerable right now. So punch something (or someone) and have a smoke or a red bull or whatever the hell you want that will ease this feeling for you.<br /><br />And then move on with your sober self!!! You are amazing!SoberMomWriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04845259535764391849noreply@blogger.com