tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post4645110226143938501..comments2024-03-15T02:13:34.645+13:00Comments on Mrs D Is Going Without: It's a REVOLUTION!!!!Mrs Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13110933370498728198noreply@blogger.comBlogger81125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-56272621187463257002014-07-26T21:44:47.317+12:002014-07-26T21:44:47.317+12:00I'm like Oberlix I fell into the Calderón at ...I'm like Oberlix I fell into the Calderón at birth and have the super powers for life. No need for the magic potion (that was my latest answer to the why aren't drinking question) 15 months clear loving the planet.Mr Finnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09128367085234083683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-88531080384858706802014-07-26T12:20:21.203+12:002014-07-26T12:20:21.203+12:00Hi Squizzi,
Yep, I still like to have a drink in t...Hi Squizzi,<br />Yep, I still like to have a drink in the hand. I still have my wine o'clock drink only it's usually my tipple of the moment cranberry juice and soda water. I'm having my first real social engagement is a mates 50th BBQ tonight. <br />I think having a glass in hand [of whatever] is for confidence maybe, something to hide behind. You did well last night. Each step like that is a step forward. And a step forward is always good.Breezi's Spirithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16455459388421177756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-48722116465013074042014-07-26T11:12:01.949+12:002014-07-26T11:12:01.949+12:00Went out to movies last night to see Sex Tape with...Went out to movies last night to see Sex Tape with Cameron Diaz. Hilarious!! Hubbie being so supportive choosing to do alternative things with me on weekends instead of going to pub with his mates. So invited another couple selected partially on the fact that the girl barely drinks an wouldn't hassle me or question me. It was fine. W met for a drink and light nibble before movie and ordered a tomato juice seasoned. Still find I drink everything so much faster than everyone else. What's with that? Quite annoying, so now I'm sitting there wanting to order another thinking this is ridiculous it's not even wine and I'm having to sit patiently and wait for everyone to finish their drinks so we could order another round. Friggin tomato juice!!!! Anyway guess what! They'd never ordered another drink! I would have had 3 normally in that time frame. Now I analyse it I am thirsty all the time. As soon as I wake it's a cup of tea or two then move on to coffee, then move on to coke zero, then home and into evening drinks (normally some sort of diet soda combo non alcoholic of course!!). If I wasn't always needing to have a drink on hand maybe my alcohol intake wouldn't have got so out of hand? It's a bit like a chain smoker. I' was diagnosed last year as having a thyroid problem and one of the symptoms is a strong thirst and a desire for caffeinated sodas. Weird I know. So I thought it was that but I hear others on here commenting on drinking lots as well now they are alcohol free. And don't we all love our flavoured teas!! It's so great the selection. It's a novelty when I go to the supermarket. Instead of purusing the wine isle and selecting a couple of bottles I now linger in the tea isle trying out new ones I haven't sampled yet and picking up a couple of trusty staple ones too. Does anyone else have this issue with needing a drink in hand or on the go???<br /><br />Anyway survived the premovie drinks, the movie was great but then they wanted to go on for a drink afterwards and I was just soooo reluctant. So we didn't go and I could tell the other couple were disappointed by husband stood behind me and made some feeble excuse about us needing to get home. I tried to figure out what was going on in my head and said to him on the way home, I think I have only got to so much sober energy to be fun and chatty and interested socially and it's harder than it used to be so I think it takes<br /> More energy to do it and I think basically I was exhausted and thought I had done the night really successfully only to be asked to muster up some more sober fun energy and I couldn't ! Dumb ass eh? Weird, confusing but I guess it is what it is...Squizzinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-59975102472664802452014-07-25T11:24:54.087+12:002014-07-25T11:24:54.087+12:00Thanks :-) I have a friend who is a non-drinker an...Thanks :-) I have a friend who is a non-drinker and he gave me a good tip ... just volunteer to drive. That way no one can complain too much and there is also a reason to not drink. So I will give that a go. Along with the 24 hour focus - instead of thinking of days/weeks/months looming ahead of me ... I'm feeling a bit more confident.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-80899004189946683962014-07-25T11:05:55.998+12:002014-07-25T11:05:55.998+12:00Just had to pop back with a nom de plume for my po...Just had to pop back with a nom de plume for my post above.<br /><br />I NEVER post on the internet anonymously-always use my real name....however I plan to join the new forum when it gets up and going and confessional I will be: honest and raw Mrs D styles!<br /><br />I figure my nearest and dearest have a right to disassociate from some of my more outrageous behaviour. Stuff like me doing "the fly" break dancing move (you know the one you busted out on the 'bop mat' at primary school) on the dance floor at the bar on my 39th birthday 'cos it would be HALARIOUS!! Well the crowd was laughing......<br /><br />I live in a provincial New Zealand town-it just ain't big enough to pull that shit!<br /><br />Anyhooo...Day 4 off the medicinal looney juice and thanks to Mrs D and all you lovely followers that is COOL by me!<br /><br />Cheers,<br />Penelope Dropped (you can call me Penny)Ms Penelope Droppednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-72517674426529107492014-07-25T06:30:33.639+12:002014-07-25T06:30:33.639+12:00It is so worth it, today is another day. Put yeste...It is so worth it, today is another day. Put yesterday behind you and start afresh. Aim to have a sober day today. Dont beat your self up. Soberity rocks - hang in there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-70750028370218598692014-07-25T06:01:25.074+12:002014-07-25T06:01:25.074+12:00Wow, day 2 for me too! This is my third try and I...Wow, day 2 for me too! This is my third try and I'm determined for it to be my last. Like Mrs. D I'm an educated, highly functioning wife and mother and I really thought that I was the only one dealing with my secret alcoholic (yes I'll just say that's what I am) life. Thank you all so much, it's amazing to know that I'm not alone- it gives me so much hope and determination.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-48861825273535767772014-07-25T02:51:10.682+12:002014-07-25T02:51:10.682+12:00Prudence I am day two as well. This is not my firs...Prudence I am day two as well. This is not my first time to try this but I hope it is my last.<br />gratefulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11520014124731828471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-53729142976314882022014-07-25T02:49:01.008+12:002014-07-25T02:49:01.008+12:00Starting over again...Day two. So much shame and d...Starting over again...Day two. So much shame and disgust. Yet when I read how much you love sobriety, I want that. Please keep reminding me how much better it is. All of you, I need to know that these early days are worth it. I could have a great life if I could beat this demon.gratefulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11520014124731828471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-86936653661914968352014-07-24T21:33:56.767+12:002014-07-24T21:33:56.767+12:00Yay Noelle. Smiling for you to.Yay Noelle. Smiling for you to.Breezi's Spirithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16455459388421177756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-77536798615884873392014-07-24T21:09:50.195+12:002014-07-24T21:09:50.195+12:00Proud of myself. Yay day 2 A/ F! I smiled a lot to...Proud of myself. Yay day 2 A/ F! I smiled a lot today.! Felt better. Noellenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-6314286143678595872014-07-24T17:59:28.897+12:002014-07-24T17:59:28.897+12:00Yep I was out for dinner and the waitress at the r...Yep I was out for dinner and the waitress at the restaurant said their turnover was way down even though they were fully booked but because of dry July. Amazing. I think it is fantastic the whole dry July concept. It gives people a chance to try it without the peer pressure. Rediculous isn't it we aren't exactly in high school!!! How come when people give up smoking they get no end of support? Mind you 30 years ago it may not have been the same. Now is the time for the revolution as mrs D says!!! Here's hoping in 30 years our kids won't be in a culture where drinking to excess is fine. Here's hoping over drinking will be frowned on like smoking is now. Let's face it we are bombarded with images of cool beautiful 20 something's struggling down the street arm in arm looking happy and above all popular and cool. Everyone wants to be them. But flash forward 20 or 30 years and those now 50 year olds staggering down the street arm in arm most likely a with a man instead of single girlfriends or with girlfriends tottering beside you - not such a pretty picture is it? I think I am happy to say I had a really good time in my first half of my life and now as a 47 year old married woman with 3 kids I am happy to say I have matured graciously and am now going to live out the second part of my life with respect, fun and great memorable moments that don't involve alcohol.Squizzinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-65583140847555775962014-07-24T15:38:10.616+12:002014-07-24T15:38:10.616+12:00Aaahhhhhhhhhhh, mighty challenge coming up. And no...Aaahhhhhhhhhhh, mighty challenge coming up. And no doubt the inner alcohol voice will say just have one..................... you know, it's okay to acknowledge whats going on for you - there is real power in doing it. Could you tell your friends they are right, you do love wine but maybe not in a healthy way any longer and that's why you are making changes. At your party drink what you like and have it in a wine glass. I've ordered a lemon lime and bitters in a wine flute [the bar lady raised her eyebrows but that was it]. I wish you lots of courage [look deep cos it's there] and laughter[always a good tool to have in the emotional coping box]. And hey, I have yet to tell a friend of mine I've stopped. Keep posting to. Breezi's Spirithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16455459388421177756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-2369214165345489772014-07-24T15:29:30.560+12:002014-07-24T15:29:30.560+12:00No your right drinking is no different to any othe...No your right drinking is no different to any other drug, i hate seeing things like that its glorifying and encouraging the drinking culture.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-65750172685735953222014-07-24T15:20:43.791+12:002014-07-24T15:20:43.791+12:00Aaaaaah (pulls up comfy chair), what a relief to f...Aaaaaah (pulls up comfy chair), what a relief to find you all!<br /><br />Just bought your book Mrs D as my self present for my birthday this Sunday (turning forty one) off the medicinal looney juice for 3 days now.<br /><br />Gads do I feel like a chump. <br /><br />Have been trying to moderate for a while now with varying success. Would have gone cold turkey weeks ago if I hadn't consulted Dr Google, heard the thundering hooves of the horses approaching, and decided I was that person who would have seizures etc....needless to say I haven't noticed a thing save for not being drunk at all. I hear that can be the reality for people. I'm not minimising the risk. Letting that fear keep me boozing was a mistake as I look back with less bloodshot 20/20 vision to a WHOLE three days ago!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-8821916223459902622014-07-24T14:17:42.791+12:002014-07-24T14:17:42.791+12:00Thank you for your reply. You are right - I should...Thank you for your reply. You are right - I should just try and focus more on the Now. I also agree with what you have written below. Dry July is a way for me to start being sober and avoiding the judgement of others. I still get the "I can't believe you're not drinking! You love drinking!" comments though. I am known in my group of friends as (one of) The Drinkers. So me quietly slipping into August, without the celebratory boozy post-Dry-July weekend will be quite the shock to some of my group. Doesn't help that the 1st of August has an event - birthday drinks for my Very Boozy Friend and usual partner-in-wine-crime! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-46501789610436745492014-07-24T14:14:29.798+12:002014-07-24T14:14:29.798+12:00I was browsing a shop window today looking at the ...I was browsing a shop window today looking at the coasters on display. One was " wine is to women like duct tape is to men, it solves everything". Okay it is a little funny but actually it's not really. Drinking really does have this air of fun, easy, and just a bit of a joke. But it's just not true. With things like that trivialising drinking it makes it so much more socially acceptable to do and so weird and wrong to stop. You don't see things like that about smoking or heroin or P now.Breezi's Spirithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16455459388421177756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-87607592632655085512014-07-24T14:11:12.510+12:002014-07-24T14:11:12.510+12:00So maybe don't focus too much on end of July b...So maybe don't focus too much on end of July but more on what you are doing right now and how you are feeling about it and yourself. Be proud of yourself and allow end of July to come and go, after all it's actually only a matter of 24 hours from July to August, small moment in time. Keep it real. Hang in there.Breezi's Spirithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16455459388421177756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-66657505961100211112014-07-24T14:09:27.555+12:002014-07-24T14:09:27.555+12:00that's probably quite true for some people but...that's probably quite true for some people but I also think there are a lot of people who are using dry July as a safe place to begin not drinking, saving face so to speak. It also gives them time to get a grasp on what they are doing, what they want and where they want to head with it so by end of July they might have that next pool of strength to stick to it making this there new way of life.Breezi's Spirithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16455459388421177756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-18545050152174414342014-07-24T13:10:24.478+12:002014-07-24T13:10:24.478+12:00The problem with dry July is people do it has a bi...The problem with dry July is people do it has a bit of fun, then as soon as it is over have a weekend of massive bingeing. This is particularly common among the young.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-86652017436419497972014-07-24T13:00:37.538+12:002014-07-24T13:00:37.538+12:00I just last night finished reading your book. I fo...I just last night finished reading your book. I found it completely by chance last Friday night. I am doing Dry July, Day 24 now, and Friday nights are by far the worst nights for me. I have that horrible flat feeling you describe so well. I feel like, I have finished a whole week of work - and there is no reward for me. Last Friday night my husband had 5pm work drinks and I didn't want to go, so instead I wandered around shops I hate (The Warehouse!!) feeling very alone ... and randomly found your book. Parts of it are as though I have written them myself. I am scared for the end of Dry July to come now because although I like being sober and am doing really well, I've also been fantasising about wine and I don't know if I will be able to continue being sober without the committment of Dry July to keep me going :-(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-87962524627581350952014-07-24T12:12:49.055+12:002014-07-24T12:12:49.055+12:00Yep I was out for dinner and the waitress at the r...Yep I was out for dinner and the waitress at the restaurant said their turnover was way down even though they were fully booked but because of dry July. Amazing. I think it is fantastic the whole dry July concept. It gives people a chance to try it without the peer pressure. Rediculous isn't it we aren't exactly in high school!!! How come when people give up smoking they get no end of support? Mind you 30 years ago it may not have been the same. Now is the time for the revolution as mrs D says!!! Here's hoping in 30 years our kids won't be in a culture where drinking to excess is fine. Here's hoping over drinking will be frowned on like smoking is now. Let's face it we are bombarded with images of cool beautiful 20 something's struggling down the street arm in arm looking happy and above all popular and cool. Everyone wants to be them. But flash forward 20 or 30 years and those now 50 year olds staggering down the street arm in arm most likely a with a man instead of single girlfriends or with girlfriends tottering beside you - not such a pretty picture is it? I think I am happy to say I had a really good time in my first half of my life and now as a 47 year old married woman with 3 kids I am happy to say I have matured graciously and am now going to live out the second part of my life with respect, fun and great memorable moments that don't involve alcohol.Squizzinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-67345412145006047012014-07-24T10:30:57.102+12:002014-07-24T10:30:57.102+12:00Yea, gives Dry July quite a different meaning. Wou...Yea, gives Dry July quite a different meaning. Would love to know if the shops are seeing a difference in the bottom line. And how many people start with DJ, and like me, have decided to make this a life change? For me, it gave me an excuse to change a behaviour I knew was long overdue but I didn't know how to "come out". Having got on the wagon I now intend to stay there!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-30061680962037527222014-07-24T10:28:50.709+12:002014-07-24T10:28:50.709+12:00Cutting the sugar is good. I find one of my trigge...Cutting the sugar is good. I find one of my triggers is being hungry, walking into the kitchen to start cooking, and first step was pour a glass of wine. That till one week ago. Finding it okay now, but I do make myself a small carby snack (e.g. one slice bread and cheese) about an hour before my usual "wine time". Helps take the edge of any puckishness I might be mixing up with cravings. I just have fewer carbs with my meal to compensate. Maybe I can drop this habit long-term, but I'm finding that, and pouring a glass of soda water with about 3 ml sugar-free lime cordial really helpful in the meantime.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-67994001591243556762014-07-24T07:36:26.528+12:002014-07-24T07:36:26.528+12:00I'm one of the so- called lurkers:-) and on d...I'm one of the so- called lurkers:-) and on day 2.. I've been following Mrs. D, lurking for months now. Mrs.D, thanks for putting yourself out there creating the movement! I thought I was only one of few with an alcohol problem. Know I know many other women struggle too. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com