tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post5021942213981770316..comments2024-03-15T02:13:34.645+13:00Comments on Mrs D Is Going Without: Staying sober matters the most...Mrs Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13110933370498728198noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-76727959896330498072014-07-19T21:32:32.865+12:002014-07-19T21:32:32.865+12:00In early recovery I was under the impression that ...In early recovery I was under the impression that relapse was aside with my disease of alcoholism. I have now discovered that the addictive part of my brain siezed on to this dangerous advice. I now have closed this back door in my head and take Antabuse and I check my naughty thinking. This is my life the party is over and it is time to get real and act accordingly. I hate alcohol and I am not going to let it take anything more from me today x today I am grateful to be sober.Soberjaxnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-66600562428725434182014-07-16T22:19:25.800+12:002014-07-16T22:19:25.800+12:00The hiding of the bottle is the pits for the hider...The hiding of the bottle is the pits for the hider and the finder, but things coming to a head is essential for progress and for me that was 16 days agoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-30983031659687691522014-07-13T14:46:21.003+12:002014-07-13T14:46:21.003+12:00Zulu, I woke feeling a bit yuck and down, then in ...Zulu, I woke feeling a bit yuck and down, then in turn very disappointed (aren't I supposed to feel amazing? I have stopped the booze!). But I have just got back from a 3.5 hour run up in the trails and now I feel amazing. I had so much time to think. Drinking has stolen so much from me. There are so many trails I have wanted to bike or run, but haven't because I have chosen to drink instead, or because I have been too hungover. I realised for real on my run today that this is a "forever" thing. I cannot moderate alcohol. I am an addict. It stops here. Thank you for your encouragement.Colourful1https://www.blogger.com/profile/16877984517382319345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-22582049132932593432014-07-13T13:58:51.767+12:002014-07-13T13:58:51.767+12:00Hey Colourful1 - good on you. Pleased you had a gr...Hey Colourful1 - good on you. Pleased you had a great response from your partner. I'm thinking you probably woke feeling pretty fabulous this morning! :)zulunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-19092913395854629622014-07-12T17:20:46.141+12:002014-07-12T17:20:46.141+12:00Wow, how dumb am I to admit I have a drinking prob...Wow, how dumb am I to admit I have a drinking problem this morning ... when we are throwing a dinner party tonight! I felt so brave and strong at 8am when I said "this is it, this is day one". But it is, thanks to coming out via the blog, seeing myself in Mrs D and many others of you, and realising I am addicted. About to start scrubbing potatoes with a wine glass full of apple cider vinegar and soda xxxColourful1https://www.blogger.com/profile/16877984517382319345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-62792088455235807552014-07-12T16:17:51.045+12:002014-07-12T16:17:51.045+12:00Thank you for all that you are doing right now for...Thank you for all that you are doing right now for so many people worldwide! I hope you are able to get some rest and quiet time amid all the excitement of your book release. I love hearing your voice on the radio shows and when you were a guest on The Bubble Hour. From the USA, thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-52921498683522851102014-07-12T09:42:00.645+12:002014-07-12T09:42:00.645+12:00I agree. Love your posts online Mrs D. If I feel ...I agree. Love your posts online Mrs D. If I feel the urge to drive to the supermarket for you know what, by the time I read all these blogs, I'm ready to do something else. Welldone.You are such an inspiration.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-73607990463149621122014-07-12T09:40:11.606+12:002014-07-12T09:40:11.606+12:00Hi Mrs D
Stuff the haters I say. People will alway...Hi Mrs D<br />Stuff the haters I say. People will always be critical. Bet they haven't written a book. We talked about your book and blog in my group the other night. The facilitators think its great your message is getting out there so feel proud. I'm up to day 12 of dry July and 13 days sober, I think about wine all the time but have not succumbed. I even bought my husband beer last night while I had my bubbly grape juice and soda water in a massive wine glass. Not feeling fuzzy but feeling things so that is a good start. I went to a funeral on Thursday. I cried and cried as you do. The difference was at night I couldn't take the edge off with a wine instead I went to my group. Thank you so much for this blog. Have a great weekend - Mrs M.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-21391581913304840982014-07-12T09:34:47.288+12:002014-07-12T09:34:47.288+12:00Wow. what a wonderful response. Having someone by...Wow. what a wonderful response. Having someone by your side will be such a great support for you. Good workAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-42596353939353078582014-07-12T09:14:31.120+12:002014-07-12T09:14:31.120+12:00I didn't get the guts to do it last night (dra...I didn't get the guts to do it last night (drank instead) - but this morning I told her, told her I was an addict and needed to stop. She wrapped her arms around me and said "I have just been waiting for you to say this, today is day one, and I am here for you". So, today is day one. Colourful1https://www.blogger.com/profile/16877984517382319345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-39548259676347789072014-07-12T06:23:11.421+12:002014-07-12T06:23:11.421+12:00love you mrs. D!
I hope you will never remove your...love you mrs. D!<br />I hope you will never remove your posts online.<br />When I want a drink, I read your blog and that helps so much!<br />It gives me a boost.<br />Thank you so much!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-21044778433607843212014-07-11T23:13:06.246+12:002014-07-11T23:13:06.246+12:00I echo your comments!I echo your comments!A longtime overduenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-75717901816928856202014-07-11T22:53:57.545+12:002014-07-11T22:53:57.545+12:00Talking of songs I accidentally started singing a ...Talking of songs I accidentally started singing a real oldie "I can see clearly now the rain has gone" and instead substituted "rain" for wine... "I can see clearly now the wine has gone..." Inspired whilst lying in bath reading Mrs D book when she talked about feeling and seeing clearly.MrsKIsAlcoholFreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13183940610568927411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-48715194037938676242014-07-11T22:52:55.841+12:002014-07-11T22:52:55.841+12:00Just passing day 19 - yippee :) and I had my first...Just passing day 19 - yippee :) and I had my first major crisis last night - childrens reports NCEA level 1 ! Not good, I ended up in tears and saying what have I done to them, I have let them down staring into a wine bottle. Took off in the car, and came home 1/2 hour later feeling better knowing my kids are good kids - just lazy (not helped by both their Dad and I - biggest procrastinators on the planet !) so all is not lost. And I did not buy any wine - that would have been first reaction normally.<br />Fantastic, first crisis over - may not seem like a big crisis to many, but seemed to hit me very hard.<br />So thank you Mrs D, I would not have got thru last night without you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-2939614309238903502014-07-11T22:46:24.182+12:002014-07-11T22:46:24.182+12:00Well done! I am a few days behind you - 11 days. H...Well done! I am a few days behind you - 11 days. Had a friend over for dinner tonight, and I bought some wine for her - but she also bought a bottle. She opened hers' and drank 2 glasses, then I asked her to take the rest home - removing temptation from me. I know I am ok with the unopened one here. I didn't feel I missed out at all tonight. I drank Lemon, Lime and Bitters out of a wine glass. And I feel good, and know I will have a clear head in the morning, for the 12th day in a row!! Mrs R.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-20092226609648057032014-07-11T21:05:28.151+12:002014-07-11T21:05:28.151+12:00Looking forward to seeing the new website. Waiting...Looking forward to seeing the new website. Waiting for your book to arrive and delighted to see how well things are going right now for you! Ignore the pinpricks and peas --Mary LAhttp://louisey.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-36133088016992691392014-07-11T21:00:17.715+12:002014-07-11T21:00:17.715+12:00Love reading these blogs. Super inspiring and comf...Love reading these blogs. Super inspiring and comforting to hear that it's not so unusual and that others are going through this journey as well.Rediscovering Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09801891635381033624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-54972393458701557322014-07-11T18:56:16.979+12:002014-07-11T18:56:16.979+12:00Hi mrs d ur such an inspiration 2 me u have no ide...Hi mrs d ur such an inspiration 2 me u have no idea. I have been sober 13 days and feel so awake! Like a dark mist has lifted. Im excited and scared at the same time. But im 46 years old and finally i get it. We alcoholics can do anything we want we just cant drink, thats bloody good odds.i saw u on tele and i felt so much emotion i went to the bathroom and cryed. U feel so alone in this disease but u were my clarity that nite. So thank u, ur my sister in sobriety!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-12229164236818382272014-07-11T18:40:58.320+12:002014-07-11T18:40:58.320+12:00Well I tell you what anyone that makes a comment l...Well I tell you what anyone that makes a comment like that doesnt know what the hell they are talking about.<br /><br />You have been a saviour to me and so many others like me - average everyday suburbian housewives or career women who are drinking a bottle of wine a night on a good night a one and half on weekends. No we arent the epitome of full blown alchies but that is the whole point!!<br /><br />Finally, finally someone has stood up and said this amount of alcohol intake for a woman is NOT OK. And it isn't. I was discussing it with my husband last night as I finished reading your book (a bit sad to get to the end and realising no more book!) and said what was special about this whole scenerio is that we can relate to you. And you are so right. Love your writing style. Love your honesty. Love that you are middle class housewife with brains. Just like me.MrsKIsAlcoholFreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13183940610568927411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-74022282792674183982014-07-11T17:29:17.900+12:002014-07-11T17:29:17.900+12:00When I was in rehab in 2009 I had a really difficu...When I was in rehab in 2009 I had a really difficult time identifying as an alcoholic because I had only experienced minor consequences compared to my fellow clients. It seemed obvious that they were alcoholics. Everyone but me was clearly powerless over drugs and alcohol, and practically hopeless. <br /><br />There is often an unspoken challenge between recovering alcoholics to see who has the most terrible or interesting "war story" from their drinking days. And until I learned to listen for the similarities, all I heard were reasons I was not an alcoholic. <br /><br />One day, I was speculating about this out loud in group. Another client, a middle-aged man with a prestigious career hanging in the balance due to a drug addiction was sitting in the opposite corner of the room. Interrupting me, he yelled "WHAT IS IT GONNA TAKE? WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO LOSE?" <br /><br />I did my first step that night and I've never doubted it since.<br /><br />My alcoholism works hard at detting me to relapse. This week on my blog I wrote about "my ism's" desire to send me "back out there" to get a more dramatic bottom...so that I could have a real retort to the people who say that I'm not a real alcoholic. <br />http://beckydoyle.blogspot.com/2014/07/im-perfectly-imperfect-and-thats.html<br /><br />Just the mere fact that I had to battle my own mind on this issue is a pretty big warning sign. If it's already in neon lights with twinkling stars and balloons on either side, I'm not sure what other signs could possibly be needed for me to get the message. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00831967761180151267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-53519294321338302072014-07-11T14:55:53.425+12:002014-07-11T14:55:53.425+12:00I've been following different alcohol sites in...I've been following different alcohol sites in the past, Blogs from different parts of the world and what i've heard so many many times is the slipping back into drinkin again. So I hear you when you say that 3 years is early and still a challenge. For me personally I like a drink and I also hate a drink. One too many and I start getting a bit short with people, especially to the boyfriend and he's trying to help me. I will be folloiwng this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-53763805327176361892014-07-11T14:40:01.598+12:002014-07-11T14:40:01.598+12:00Well since why people drink out of control has not...Well since why people drink out of control has nothing to do with problems (but will most certainly cause problems in the end) eg some people with immense problems don't drink and some with no problems do- our life be it breezy, or hard or in between has nothing to do with our inner struggle with booze..you either have the alcoholic gene or you don't I think...you don't 'create it" or have it "put on you" by circumstances/lifestyle/struggles. Some people without it will never understand- thats fine!4 day weekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05758922356005739347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-77781797604018529342014-07-11T12:43:53.918+12:002014-07-11T12:43:53.918+12:00I think this must be fate...I was considering buyi...I think this must be fate...I was considering buying your book and lo and behold my weekly Paper Plus e-mal has just come through advertising it as a Hot Deal...I am now off to buy it to read this weekend instead of sucumbing to the usual alcohol binge...Today is Day 1, oh boy here we go...scary....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-29770317705876963212014-07-11T12:19:54.889+12:002014-07-11T12:19:54.889+12:00I am sitting at work reading this blog and thinkin...I am sitting at work reading this blog and thinking god I am not the only one going through this.....I hate the fact that I have even reached the point where I will agree with my wife to not drink Monday to Thursday but then as I tend to pick up any extras after work from the supermarket I sneak home a bottle of wine...and go out to the fridge in the garage (on the pretext of doing washing or feeding the cat) and gradually drink the contents from the bottle over the course of the evening...I feel like crap being dishonest but it's like I just can't get through a day without that drug that is so damn it readily available...today I feel enough is enough but I am scared and feeling like can I do this. if I could stop at 1 glass I guess I wouldn't have a problem but the trouble is I realise I can't. We have friends coming for dinner tonight and they have said don't worry about alcohol as they are doing dry July...so we won't drink tonight either and I am hoping I can use it as a starting point to kick this close to 30 year addiction (I am 44) to the kerb once and for all...my wife asked me to do dry July but I just couldn't commit but am thinking (and hoping) that tonight will be okay and after that 1 day at a time....thanks Mrs D for this blog, it does help to hear you are not the only one struggling. Your interview on Sunday just rang true to many home truths but it's getting past that initial denial that is hard...I am afraid that once I verbalise to my wife that I want to stop that it becomes real and I have to finally address it but then OMG I really do want to too...cripes!<br />On a final matter stuff the negative critical sods...I admire your courage to make this issue public and they are obviously so lucky to not have to go through what so many of us others are...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-65386374115052847382014-07-11T09:12:28.519+12:002014-07-11T09:12:28.519+12:00Go you! I seem to be doing the 3 day stint and the...Go you! I seem to be doing the 3 day stint and then "oh well one won't hurt"! Bloody vicious cycle. 10 days thatwould be a miracle for me.! Proud of you. Cherie xxCheriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10097891671450199621noreply@blogger.com