tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post5990115687060688337..comments2024-03-15T02:13:34.645+13:00Comments on Mrs D Is Going Without: Why no AA for me?Mrs Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13110933370498728198noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-73828933478070541942012-07-21T00:38:06.783+12:002012-07-21T00:38:06.783+12:00I applaud you. For myself I needed AA meetings, bu...I applaud you. For myself I needed AA meetings, but writing in my journal and my on-line blog were VERY important to my sobriety. I'm sober 15 years now. I still go to AA once a week, but my on-line friends and honest communication with them, are essential. Everyone is different. Some of us just need to find our own way, rather than be told. My name is Gary :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-38389639982448784952012-04-01T05:57:20.845+12:002012-04-01T05:57:20.845+12:00I got sober in the AA rooms.The sober people helpe...I got sober in the AA rooms.The sober people helped me by sharing their experience ,strength and hope with me.Now for 30 years I have been helping others by doing what they did for me in the beginning.I am told that I need to give it away to keep it.<br />I I forget where I came from I might go back.Hugs and BlessingsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-10366553406233287622012-02-16T02:14:54.860+13:002012-02-16T02:14:54.860+13:00I meant to say "if some people feel those are...I meant to say "if some people feel those are their only meant of support"Kary Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12674442468925628974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-78529978748963588982012-02-16T02:13:18.422+13:002012-02-16T02:13:18.422+13:00Like you, I did not choose AA. There were a lot o...Like you, I did not choose AA. There were a lot of reasons in the beginning why I didn't go, why I chose to fashion my own design of recovery, most of those reasons are gone now, but I feel that I've built up an adequate wall of support within myself and with my friends, both in the real world and the virtual world. I think it is important, that people know there is another way, other than the AA way or the rehab way. Because if people feel those are their only means of support, they'll keep trudging along alone in their misery. Like I was. But now I have you and others walking along side of me and I am thankful.Kary Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12674442468925628974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-61298403526655963272012-02-15T04:25:36.894+13:002012-02-15T04:25:36.894+13:00I had the same journey as LuLu (above). I spent t...I had the same journey as LuLu (above). I spent the first two years of my sobriety going it alone and being just fine. I'm still just fine as far as sobriety goes but I've found that I also need people around me who "get it". I can't tell you the feeling I had the first time I sat in that room and realized that everyone around me had had the same experiences as I did (more or less). But the biggest thing was that I didn't have to feel shame for the first time in my life. There's no judgement and therefore no shame.<br /><br />Listen to your heart, you'll know if and when you want to go to AA. May be never! But don't wait for a relapse...if you hear that quiet whisper from your HP (mine's name is God BTW) then listen.SoberMomWriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04845259535764391849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-87797862999490673152012-02-14T18:15:38.579+13:002012-02-14T18:15:38.579+13:00I was lucky enough to be able to go to AA in my fi...I was lucky enough to be able to go to AA in my first year and it was for me a way to do my growing up in public -- I could ask questions, identify, make friends and I didn't have to work it all out alone, on my own, sitting reinventing the wheel without a clue others have gone through this before.<br /><br />Since then (four years) I've been geographically isolated, stuck on a hillside in rural Africa, and make do with forums and blogging, the occasional meeting (a five-hour drive) and hone calls with AA friends. It is certainly possible to stay sober on one's own but for me somewhat pointless if you have a resource like AA on your doorstep. One thing about meetings (and coffee chats after meetings) that helped me was the very smart and funny women, perhaps eight or 11 years sober, who had worked through all kinds of issues and were so generous with their time and insights, who were sounding boards for me on the kinds of more intimate or troubling issues you can't post about. That helped me to what I would call 'fast-track' through early sobriety, think more clearly about what I was doing and get confidence in taking risks and living more fully.<br /><br />You don't have to wait until you relapse to get to a meeting -- relapse is not inevitable in recovery and the processes leading to relapse are frightening and usually a great surprise to the person experiencing them.Mary LAhttp://louisey.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-1080897542626570392012-02-14T13:37:25.573+13:002012-02-14T13:37:25.573+13:00I totally understand that. I barely went to meeti...I totally understand that. I barely went to meetings for my first 2 1/2 years until I felt I was ready for that kind of help. Until that point, I lived on recovery memoirs, journaling, and really, really long runs! (My poor knees!) Eventually, I hit a wall of solo-recovery and just needed a community of people who 'got it'. It has taken a while, but I now have a regular meeting which I am slowly falling in love with. It's really nice, but I had to do it on my own time. Listen to your heart and pay close attention to your moods ~ mine got SO bad and meetings have definitely lifted me back to a more normal place. Thanks for your post!Luluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02940660093997902932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-87815414130986078592012-02-14T13:36:48.282+13:002012-02-14T13:36:48.282+13:00Your doing just fine. I just celebrated 2.5yrs and...Your doing just fine. I just celebrated 2.5yrs and havent been actively in AA since I was forced to during my 30 day out patient rehab :) <br /><br />It just didnt work for me. I didnt feel it I guess! <br /><br />I blogged my little heart out my first 2yrs which helped me immensely. Now, I dont blog as often other then to bitch and moan once in a while! LOL <br /><br />Do what works for you is my motto. I used to get grief for not being an active member of AA and what do ya know, I am STILL sober and moving forward. (some didnt think that could happen without AA)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-64347032753872471792012-02-14T11:15:46.015+13:002012-02-14T11:15:46.015+13:00Our hope is that we will find what works for each ...Our hope is that we will find what works for each of us individually. Even in AA no personal program is alike. I am glad you are sober and finding your life more fulfilled because of it. For me it was realizing I had a problem. Finding support and inner strength to change is indeed an inside job. I'm grateful for what I have going for me. I'm grateful for what you have going for you too. Keep up the good work sista!Let Go, Let Godhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02734821434596510493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-23554860261811997652012-02-14T11:12:25.080+13:002012-02-14T11:12:25.080+13:00I'm proud of you too! I have a very close frie...I'm proud of you too! I have a very close friend who quit drinking last November. She doesn't go to AA either. It's up to you, and like you said we are all alone. The thing AA did for me was it let me set all my baggage down. I needed to accept my past before I could be in my present. I needed to learn some survival skills so I could understand why, or what led me to drinking. So for me it worked, and it still works on a daily basis. It is always an option for you. Like you said, you know where that church is....:-)drybottomgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10702877045042502693noreply@blogger.com