tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post899915420487802815..comments2024-03-15T02:13:34.645+13:00Comments on Mrs D Is Going Without: Here I am in all my glory...Mrs Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13110933370498728198noreply@blogger.comBlogger77125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-34309963187721764062014-07-02T09:59:45.626+12:002014-07-02T09:59:45.626+12:00Sending love and support to everyone who like me i...Sending love and support to everyone who like me is taking that 1st step. After years of oscillating between self loathing and denial and discouragement about getting the alcohol under control, this week I get that for me I can't drink. At all. Ever! Day 3 <br />XxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-89848594549258911352014-07-01T08:46:07.576+12:002014-07-01T08:46:07.576+12:00This was heart wrenching to watch. My mum suggest...This was heart wrenching to watch. My mum suggested I watch it, knowing that this is something I really struggle with. I have enjoyed alcohol for 17 years now - I have had highs and lows but I know it has hurt others around me. I was sober for 2 years and thought I had it sorted so started drinking again. I watched you and I know haven't got it sorted. It is one of those terrible things that plays on your mind - thank you. Thank you for your courage - thank you for this forum - thank you. Dry July - Best way to start. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-52931400005880107592014-06-30T21:23:10.304+12:002014-06-30T21:23:10.304+12:00Go to AA. One person can't help you do it.Go to AA. One person can't help you do it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-8983447245511767132014-06-28T18:07:00.571+12:002014-06-28T18:07:00.571+12:00Hi you have helped me so much with your interview....Hi you have helped me so much with your interview. I have been sober for two years and still struggled with the feeling ' that I must be a bad person because I am an alcoholic'. But since Sunday night I no longer feel like that. I now feel good about myself and because of that - am so much happier in myself. What others think of me is there problem. Thankyou so much Lotta.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-14177730825804751902014-06-24T23:59:20.976+12:002014-06-24T23:59:20.976+12:00Yay! Thanks for sharing with the world. You are su...Yay! Thanks for sharing with the world. You are super awesome :)Ms. Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06888981729413295412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-23916082098569107092014-06-24T20:44:57.535+12:002014-06-24T20:44:57.535+12:00Fellow TVNZer here - I had no idea... You have sho...Fellow TVNZer here - I had no idea... You have shown true courage and spirit, first in going sober, and second in revealing yourself and your journey. You and Corin deserve much kudos - so proud for youAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-78581356648459290902014-06-24T18:38:09.770+12:002014-06-24T18:38:09.770+12:00Dear Lotta,
I am 8 years old and when I grow up i...Dear Lotta,<br /><br />I am 8 years old and when I grow up i want to be just like you.<br />Pretty please say something about me on TV.<br />I really like your blog!<br /><br />From Sophie WardSophie Wardnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-25192245020446262422014-06-24T14:09:44.536+12:002014-06-24T14:09:44.536+12:00I had to change my name on the Blog as it upset my...I had to change my name on the Blog as it upset my husband so Mary Davis is an alias. Cheers CherieCheriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10097891671450199621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-80535586389804735312014-06-24T14:08:40.860+12:002014-06-24T14:08:40.860+12:00That sounds great. How do we arrange that? Are you...That sounds great. How do we arrange that? Are you in Wellington>Cheriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10097891671450199621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-10857974987984824232014-06-24T11:52:30.301+12:002014-06-24T11:52:30.301+12:00I just happen to catch the clip the other night on...I just happen to catch the clip the other night on TV, I missed the initial bit but I will watch on demand to see what I missed. I too am a "Mrs D" although my battle with the bottle is not for me but around me. I find it hard to understand and comprehend at times because although I love a wine, and have been known to dance on the odd table top, I can take it or leave it and it is simply not an issue to me. I struggle with the thought of addiction and not being able to" just stop". My situation is that I now have a blended family and I get to be step Mum to two beautiful girls, not long after I came into their fathers life everything turned upside down, he went from weekend Dad to full time Dad. His Ex it seems is an alcoholic, I doubted this at first but I have now seen this first hand and in fact seem to be living it along with them. She has chosen the bottle over her children, something I just cannot fathom?? There is nothing that I wouldn't/couldn't overcome to be with my girls. I guess I just don't get it. her suicide attempts, lack of interest, over the top interest, false allegations to hide her own injuries sustained during drinking bouts and her lack of any form of commitment to her daughters lives is something I am struggling to understand or accept. Denial is huge, her parents don't want any negative affect to their Remuera life and believe at 45 years of age she is on her own. She comes right, or appears to hide her addiction then a relationship failure or loss of job will send her off again. I have offered to help so many times, but been slapped in the face for my efforts. I guess seeing you on TV , in all your "normal" glory...and I mean that as a compliment, in one way makes me angry she is not as strong and brave as you and in another way has highlighted how wide spread, across age, ethnicity, where you come from, none of it matters at all. This Mrs D is lost in someone elses battle with the bottle :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-27415485417715321052014-06-24T09:23:55.739+12:002014-06-24T09:23:55.739+12:00Thank you for being strong enough and brave enough...Thank you for being strong enough and brave enough to share your story and opening up your family to New Zealand. Thank you to your husband for also being strong enough and brave enough to share his story. I wish you both the very best. Your both so awesome and touched and helped so many people. I loved the truthfulness and realness you have brought to the face of addiction and what a truly inspirational journey.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-29841105979755889942014-06-23T23:12:41.190+12:002014-06-23T23:12:41.190+12:00Half way through Lotta, Mrs D, and had to stop as ...Half way through Lotta, Mrs D, and had to stop as making me all emotional. You see it is ME too! I've been following your blog for months and will keep on doing so. Thank you Lotta XXAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-849184404289204772014-06-23T23:04:37.539+12:002014-06-23T23:04:37.539+12:00Good on you Lotta. And good on Corin. Must have be...Good on you Lotta. And good on Corin. Must have been a hard decision to go public. But very worthwhile. No doubt your clip will help a lot of people.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-4158300253182716662014-06-23T18:13:38.699+12:002014-06-23T18:13:38.699+12:00Hi- I watched you last night- I actually already k...Hi- I watched you last night- I actually already knew as we have a mutual friend. Listening to you was like listening to myself internalising it all! I hope to be brave and strong like you soon,,<br />4 day weekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05758922356005739347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-62828689385840328242014-06-23T18:06:19.677+12:002014-06-23T18:06:19.677+12:00I saw the advert for your piece on Sunday and it r...I saw the advert for your piece on Sunday and it rang so many bells with me, only problem was Sunday 22nd June was my 40th birthday and I had to go out with all the family for a dinner (in my eyes more excuse to have a drink!). So I have just watched you on TV on Demand whilst having another bottle of wine! I can relate to you in so many ways, 5pm is MY time, drop the kids to swim training and come home and have a bottle of wine before the kids and my husband gets home, hiding the bottle away because I am supposed to be alcohol free during the week, but I can't it's soooooo hard! I have been hiding me week nights drinking for around 9 months and like you wake up at 4am each morning feeling guilty and tell myself that I won't buy any wine today but come 2pm I go and buy some more before I pick the kids up and at 5pm on the dot it's my time to drink again :( My weight is ballooning due to the drink and I don't know what to do??? My friends see me as such a fun, sociable, life of the party kind of girl but they don't know what goes on during the week! my family have an addictive personality, I have recently found out that my dad has been gambling for years! I smoked for 15 years and managed to give up but don't know how to get rid of the wine :( Feeling very desperate.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-69787971028207006982014-06-23T17:30:44.330+12:002014-06-23T17:30:44.330+12:00I watched your Sunday interview last night, and ha...I watched your Sunday interview last night, and have since then been reading through your blog. It could be my story in so many ways and I wish I had found this when you started it ! I have been sober for 2 yrs and I hope will be for the rest of my life, for myself and my 3 children. At 36 I still feeling like a 16 yr old socially and emotionally from 20 yrs of using alcohol as the only tool in the box to deal with everything, but I'm getting there.<br />What an inspirational, brave and amazing woman you are! <br />Being alcoholic, a woman and a mother, it is hard to find good female role models, your lady are one and I hope your story continues to reach many others.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-10955110968168296692014-06-23T17:13:22.309+12:002014-06-23T17:13:22.309+12:00Hi great to hear your story,i have been in recover...Hi great to hear your story,i have been in recovery myself & found support in AA....the way AA works is one alcoholic sharing with another. One day at a time is important & also watching for triggers. The ego is a huge part of being an alkie.....& the 12 steps help with that to. All the best in recovery Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-11827149012157349222014-06-23T17:10:16.200+12:002014-06-23T17:10:16.200+12:00I to have struggled with an addiction food, sadly ...I to have struggled with an addiction food, sadly a lot of overweight people are seen as lazy, but this to is an addiction one I have been struggling with all my life and sadly one that will get me in the end. Well done you, so strong in character.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-169469341941247482014-06-23T17:00:17.067+12:002014-06-23T17:00:17.067+12:00huge amount of respect for coming out in public, r...huge amount of respect for coming out in public, respect to you !Kieranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16402520238210408220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-75298451759403627342014-06-23T16:59:05.673+12:002014-06-23T16:59:05.673+12:00I am very proud to sit and listen to someone who h...I am very proud to sit and listen to someone who had a problem with alcohol and was able to do it by herself. You truly are an amazing role model for a lot of people with drinking problems or other problem to realize you can do it by yourself with motivation <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-7187898498147026732014-06-23T16:53:39.104+12:002014-06-23T16:53:39.104+12:00Hi Mrs D, I've been contemplating a blog for a...Hi Mrs D, I've been contemplating a blog for almost a year now but have been too afraid to start knowing that I wasn't ready to stop drinking. Today, I am ready. I'm scared but your words about never going back once sober, have hit a chord and I truly hope that's the case for me. So from one housewife to another (from Australia) - thank you xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-74166042893272628222014-06-23T15:46:45.104+12:002014-06-23T15:46:45.104+12:00I was deeply moved by your story and your awesome ...I was deeply moved by your story and your awesome courage.I have the same problem and tonight and many more will be alcohol free.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-11603790205143665512014-06-23T15:00:28.352+12:002014-06-23T15:00:28.352+12:00My friend just shared this on FB and I was blubber...My friend just shared this on FB and I was blubbering in shame and hatred (of self) after about three minutes. I am living the life you were and it was both a shock and a light bulb moment watching your documentary. A shock that 'damn it', it really is a problem, although I knew this it was easy to ignore - and a light bulb moment that if you can do this without help then so can I. I imagine there are A LOT of other people that you have helped and inspired by this video. So, thank you. xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-90697230682095408932014-06-23T14:52:24.972+12:002014-06-23T14:52:24.972+12:00Bravissima sorella! Bravissima sorella! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-921119446130836418.post-31573851022179100622014-06-23T14:34:03.197+12:002014-06-23T14:34:03.197+12:00You rock Mrs D enjoyed your story last night which...You rock Mrs D enjoyed your story last night which must be cathartic,gutsy and healing for you and was for me as I danced around for years with music up on my own trollied to a few wines got up to 2 bottles every second night, especially enjoyed that part plus the raw honesty that ticked all my boxes and mirrored imaged what I got up to now 4years alcohol free come 19th November 2014 take care sister :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com