Sunday, June 3, 2012

Two dresses!!!

I was talking to a neighbor, who I've always suspected to be a boozer, and I was telling her the amazing story of our last-minute house sale (YES!) and for some reason I then told her that I'd given up the booze, that I used to be a really hard-out wine drinker but that I'd kicked it to the curb about 9 months ago.  She was so funny, she honestly seemed more interested and impressed with the fact that I'd been a fellow drinker and even said 'I wish I'd known I would have been over more often'!!!  Like dude, I've just told you I've given it up because it was getting way too heavy...and you're regretting that you'd never shared in the habit with me??!!  How funny people are.

I could sense she thought I'd turned boring, and that was a good experience for me to have in that moment, to be aware that she thought I was now boring.  Because there will be people I come across now that will consider me a boring teetotaler. And they'll be the boozers.

Boozers will always think I'm boring.  That I'm just going to have to accept.  In a boozers eye I will be a boring non-drinker.  I know this because I used to think all non-drinkers were boring nerds, but as we all know, I was a boozer.

Just after our house sold (YES!) when we were chatting to the buyers (just as excited as we were) the Real Estate agents broke out the bubbles for everyone to celebrate.  I had to quickly say 'not for me thanks' which she didn't really hear so I had to repeat it, and everyone sort of laughed (it was a very emotionally heightened situation) and I didn't explain or anything, just said 'not for me' again and she went and filled my flute with water.  It didn't matter.  And I didn't give a shit.  I don't want to be a drinker.  I'm happy being a non-drinker.  I can remember being that boozer lady and I so don't want to be her again.  I far prefer how I feel about myself now.

Mr D commented yesterday that I'm such a changed woman. He was being lovely saying things like 'vibrant' and 'alive'. I said to him isn't it amazing how I just totally changed my life?  Thank god I did.  If I hadn't changed my drinking habit I would never have realised what I could become - a much more alert and in-control version of myself.  Sorry if that sounds a bit self-satisfied.  I think I'm still in a hyper-alert state with all that is going on.

Anyway, after the house-sale papers were signed (YES!) I popped off to the mall to buy a big suitcase so I can start packing up the house now.  I decided on a whim that in lieu of celebratory champagne I would buy myself something lovely to wear.  So I did.  Two things actually.  Hence the post title.....!

Love, Mrs D xxx

13 comments:

  1. Yay! I'm so happy for you that you sold your house and you treated yourself to some new duds!

    XO

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  2. Congratulations Mrs. D.!! You made it through! You are such an inspiration - way to go!! Enjoy your rewards, you so earned them. xx

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  3. Yes, So pleased the sale went through, and you're feeling good, strong, alert and beautiful! Good for you Mrs D x

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  4. Congratulations, you deserve a case full of new dresses!

    So the majority of people, including your husband thinks the sober you is 'vibrant and alive', fabulous.

    Who cares what a bunch of sick drunks thinks.

    So pleased for you Mrs D.

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  5. :) Hi...yeah I'm still alive...just haven't been round for a while!! :) But hey... AWESOME on the house sale! And yeah, it's so funny that people think non drinkers are boring!!! They get a shock when I tell them I'm not much of a drinker...they're like... "but you're the lead singer of the band...you are meant to be a pisshead!!" hahahaha.. I say I'd prefer a tea thanx!! LOL Good on ya for the purchase/s too!! :) xxx

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  6. So pleased about the house sale. I too thought all non= drinkers were boring - but even as I used to think that, I sort of knew it was defensive as I thought they would then judge me and my drinking. Better to stick with the non judgemental boozers I thought.
    Only 2 weeks in - but so committed to sticking with it - I just like myself so much more and the thought of never having a hangover again - what joy!

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  7. Well, you posted a better version of my post about being boring non-drinkers, and I agree completely that the boozers have no idea what they're missing. Congrats on the sale of the house!

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  8. CONGRATULATIONS to your house selling! And good on you rewarding yourself for being sooo darn good! (a little something I must learn to do too).

    Take care!

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  9. Congrats on the house sale Mrs D! What great news. I loved this post, I loved all your positive comments about life without booze. From where I sit, I love to hear these things because it's great to hear that life can be so much better without booze. And I think what's more boring than being zoned out 5 hours of the day, drunk? Funny though, your neighbours response is totally what a boozer would say. Thanks for sharing such positive, upbeat thoughs!

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  10. Wonderful news on selling your house!! Hopefully this will take some stress off your plate. Good on you for treating yourself. Too funny about your neighbor's comment b/c it shows the disconnect drinkers feel from those who give it up. I find myself thinking "oh you'll learn one day" but I'm not even sure that's true. I just feel thankful I got the message when I did because it is better on this side of the fence.

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  11. Mrs. D, Congrats on selling your house! I've been reading your blog for a while and it has been a true inspiration- you've made it through the most stressful part of the move like a champ.

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  12. Congratulations on the house sale and two new dresses! How fun is that??

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  13. Congrats to you! What a huge weight off of you it is! And onto the new exciting city! Good for you Mrs D!

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