First things first. I AM SO FUCKING GLAD THAT I DON'T DRINK ALCOHOL ANY MORE.
We have four weddings to go to this summer and the first of these was on the 30th of December. It was the most warm, lovely, intimate, chatty wedding. The food was unbelievably delicious, the bride looked gorgeous in silver/grey, she and the groom were ultra-chilled out. I just had the best time. I chatted and ate and mingled and felt really calm and happy. There's always a moment early on when the room starts buzzing and I feel a little detached because I'm not drinking but that passes and after that I don't give a toss and nor does anyone else.
Sober me was able to make the effort to talk to people like random sisters-in-law of the bride and groom (2 of them) both of whom were lovely and really interesting. I know I wouldn't have bothered approaching them if I'd been boozing because neither of them were boozing. I would have hung with the boozers. And there were a few of those! I was so pleased not to be one of them. I feel sick in my guts if I imagine filling up with booze again. It's been so long.
Happy me driving home!
Then last night a New Years Eve party. A BBQ. Loads of kids and food and fireworks and fun. Had a lovely time. Had a dance even. Talked to lots of people I hadn't seen for a while and had some great catch-ups. It was a big mix across the spectrum of alcohol consumption and I am fitting comfortably at one end of that.
Had a dance! Then drove the kids home at 10.45 and marvelled at the fact that it took me so long to discover that I don't need alcohol to have fun. Who knew? Happy New Year!!
Love, Mrs D xxx
Happy New Year, Mrs. D! I can't wait for tomorrow: a brand new year, with 100+ days sober under my belt! Many thanks for the inspiration.
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Happy New Year Mrs D. I just wanted to say thank you for being an inspiration for me to suceed in my sober journey for the last 61/2 months. I needed that inspiration last night when best friend came around for BBQ and dropped my favourite bottle of bubbles Cloudy Bay Pelorus into my lap. I could have cried but I thought of you and did the old mantra I CAN DO THIS put a smile on my dial and drank my homemade lemon, lime and bitters. Was so glad to be sober later in the evening when a good friend in a drunken stumble fell onto our new chimnea and burnt hands and I was able to deal with it in cool, calm and collected manner. Then went to pick up teenage son from party at 1am and saw some drunken sights on the way. I ended the night thinking THANK GOD I DON'T DRINK ANYMORE? Thank you Mrs D, I think of you as a good friend who I can always rely on in a time of need, who knows just what to say, Thank you for being an inspiration to myself and many others. Much Love, A lurker in Wellington.
ReplyDeleteIt's not only New Year's Eve, it's also my wedding anniversary and the hotel where we are staying sent us a bottle of complimentary bubbly :( Couldn't they send chocolate instead?
ReplyDeleteHappy New Year, my lovely friend. Thank you for walking beside me this year. We've been through so much, haven't we?
Love,
Kary
I'm fucking glad you don't drink anymore, too.
ReplyDeleteHappy New Year!
p.s. I'm also fucking glad I don't drink anymore too.
I'm so glad you don't drink too Mrs D because you make me believe I can do this too and still have fun! Thank you from across the ditch :)
ReplyDeleteHAPPY SOBER NEW YEAR MRS D!!! I'm so so so so so so so so so so so SO fucking glad we don't drink anymore.
ReplyDeleteYay for NOT DRINKING! I've had the best Christmas and New Year ever, and SOBER. Like you, a couple of pangs, the odd conversation grinding to a halt over a "no thanks" when wine was offered, but overall, being out and about, being sober, having a good laugh and yes, conversations with people I would never have approached and talked to if I was boozing. Very interesting to me that I used to think drinking helped with my shyness and helped me function better socially... ummm, NOPE. I'm much more comfortable, sociable, less anxious, and way more out-going. Who knew? Happy New Year Mrs D. You're an inspiration.
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I also went on a new year party. I enjoyed this new year party more than any other. Happy new year to you also Mrs D.
ReplyDeleteglad to hear you're doing so well - happy new year to you :)
ReplyDeleteYay! I'm glad you don't drink anymore too . . . You make sober/clean look appealing. Yes, really.
ReplyDeleteHere's to another good year for you, lovely, sober Mrs D! x x
i love this post. It's a testament to the fact that sobriety beats alcoholism hands down. i never used to be an optimist, but then i got sober!
ReplyDeleteHappy New Year Mrs D!!! So glad I gave up drinking LAST year!! That sounds NICE! 3 months now! Your energy amazes me! I was in bed at 9:30pm (like usual, ha ha!)
ReplyDeleteI love the way you write! I also love WHAT you write. I love that you had fun at the wedding and NYE bash and didn't feel out of place. Love it all, really. Happy new years Mrs. D!
ReplyDeleteHappy new year to you mrs D! Hoping to rack up more sobriety under my belt this year (so far going on 60-something days sober - feels wonderful) love your blog- very inspiring!! xx
ReplyDeleteSounds like you had a great time. Have a wonderful 2013.
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