You have good ones, you have bad ones. You have fun ones, you have flat ones. It would be a lie to say sober events are always great. Sometimes they're shit. I've had sober weddings that were so awesome I danced for hours and felt on a natural high for days! I've also had sober weddings where I felt a bit flat and disjointed and like a bit of a boring loser. I've had sober dinner parties where I laughed so much my cheeks ached, and others where I felt quite removed from the jokes and like I just wanted to go home and crawl into bed.
I've been to parties where I was so nervous to be sober I chain smoked cigarettes all night, ones where I raced around fetching other people drinks like a weirdo, ones where I fixed a false smile on my face and had no fun at all, and ones where the fact I wasn't drinking was totally irrelevant and I had great chats with great people.
Sober events rise or fall on a peculiar convergence of factors; my mood, my outfit, the crowd, the vibe, the location, the music, the atmosphere, the food, my energy levels. I've learned that just because the last event I did sober was great doesn't mean the next one will be. Nor will the last sober event being shit mean the next one will be.
Sometimes they're just not great, and I wake up in the morning feeling flat like it was only really a 75% night and then the "is it because I'm a boring sober person now?" thoughts creep in. Then other times I wake up feeling like the night before was 150% fun and "get me I'm the coolest sober chick in the world, who needs booze!!!!!!!!".
(Driving home is always great whether the event was boring or fabulous. That fact remains the same. Oh how I love driving home.)
So if you have a shit sober event don't think you need to drink to make the next one more fun. It's not about the drink, it's about all those other factors. I don't think any amount of booze in the world is going to make a boring party more fun. It's just going to make me drunk at a boring party.
Love, Mrs D xxx