Saturday, May 10, 2014

Living Without Alcohol…..

…who does that? Who actually lives without any alcohol in their lives at all…????

Me. And thousands of others.

The wheels don't fall of your life if you remove alcohol completely. The sky doesn't fall in. The universe doesn't implode. Blood doesn't come out of your eye balls. You are not doomed to a life of mystery and feeling left out. You are not boring, dumb, weak, square or a loser.

You just live a life with no alcohol in it. And it's fine.

It's better than fine actually.. it's fucking fantastic.

(I'm not denying the difficult transition from living boozily to living sober… that's tough, but do-able).

I love my blog. I love that I discovered that using words and writing out my feelings and thought processes helps me keep on top of my brain and stay sober.

I love that people comment and chip in with their support or advice. I love that I get helped along the way.

I love that people get helped by me sharing my experiences… and can sometimes see reflections in what they themselves are going through. I love that they tell me that in comments and emails… it makes me cry sometimes, and feel full of happiness and warm with love.

I love that I feel no shame in admitting that I can't control the drug of alcohol.. and that every time I tell someone that 'I don't drink because I can't control it' they look at me and see strength, not weakness.

I also love Natalie Merchant's new album, and Elbow's new album, and the new bright green paint I covered our kitchen walls with this week.

There is a lot of stuff going on with me right now behind the scenes.. which will all come out soon.. to do with the book, and this blog and stuff… it's all exciting.. and nervewracking.. and wonderful and brave and real and important and cool. I love all of that.

But mostly I love being sober. I love that last night I had a cup of herbal tea, watched American Idol and then got into bed to read my book (and promptly fell asleep as per usual). I love that I woke up with no hangover and this is my life now.

Love, Mrs D xxx


  1. I love being sober too. Being aware of what is going on inside and around me. Being present for life!

  2. Lovely Mrs D and so excited for you! :) xx

  3. Love this :) This post is just what I needed to read this morning, thank you :) xxx

  4. I love it to. Thanks for your blog. Heard you on the Bubble Hour and loved what you had to say.

  5. I've said this before, but your support for living an alcohol free life is so valuable to me. It empowers me.

  6. I love being sober too. It's the best time in my life for sure. And one of the best things about it is knowing all the sober bloggers and commenters out there, all on this journey to happiness and wholeness together. YAY US>

  7. It's true. Not drinking is not the end of the world :) In fact, I think for many people it is the beginning of a brand new life. Love it!

  8. I love it too! And I love that it brought me to you.


  9. I love those "love life" days and I certainly have more of them sober than I did whilst drinking. I had plenty of those, "I love you, man" drunk moments but they were about as sincere as female preying mantis's siren song. I always woke up the next morning feeling like I'd lost my head. lol
    Happy Mother's Day!

  10. Yay!!!

    WHEN exactly is the book coming out? I am so excited to buy it.

    Loves to you,

    Lilly xo

  11. Very apt and true statements in your post, Mrs. D. You are me in a few years and I look forward to getting there. Life is great sober but at only 17 days, I have much to look forward to. Thanks again for your support. Granny.. Deb

  12. This post brought tears to my eyes. It gave me hope. It made me grateful for this online sober community. Thank you so much!
    I can't wait to find out about everything you have going on behind the scenes-- so happy for you also! Bravo!

  13. I am at 30 days today without wine...and reading your early blogs...especially where you talk about your internal dialogue, have helped me tremendously. It gives me so much hope that you are living well in sobriety. Thank you! And good luck to you in your project.

  14. I have read all your posts and they help me so much. Almost 6 months sober and your voice has cheered me on! It was such a treat to her your live voice on the Bubble Hour during a recent walk. Thank you! Thank you! For putting yourself out there for me and all of us! Denise

  15. Yes, quitting alcohol is DIFFICULT - it is far more difficult than figuring out the one-million-dollar-question of Who Wants to be a Millionaire. But, it is POSSIBLE. Now You can Stop drinking alcohol. And you SHOULD start NOW, before it’s too late.