Saturday, January 21, 2012

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Enough about me, what do you think of me?

Ha! No seriously.  I do sometimes feel terribly self obsessed what with all this 'woe is me I can't drink' carry on.  I think it's the inevitable result of blogging about sobriety that it seems to come across that all I do is think about is myself and my relationship with alcohol.

I mean, I am obsessed, don't get me wrong.  But there are plenty of times in the day where I am just being a mum, or a wife, friend, sister or daughter and am listening to other people or just being normal with everyday life and not thinking about being sober.  (I've really been focusing on my boys recently. Really looking and listening to them.  That takes me out of myself wonderfully).

Cooper, clever man with 5 years sobriety, commented recently to me and he said he thought one way he got through was to not think about what he was doing all the time.  He's a smart man.  Actually while I'm handing out praise take a look at the comments at the end of my last post.  There are some fantastic, sharp, warm, clever, lovely people reading and thinking and sharing which I'm so fortunate for.

I always visit other blogs and try to comment often as I know how great it is when I hear from people.  I especially love the anonymous ones who just say 'me too' in in relation to what I'm going through.  Maybe my lonely boat isn't so lonely any more (I'm dancing with you up on the 17th deck Riversurfer!).

Anyway, like I was saying, I try to comment and offer advice or encouragement on other sober blogs but really all I want to say is 'take care' and 'hugs' from Down Under.  Down Under is how we describe living down here in New Zealand.  Seen us on the map at the very bottom to the right?  Picture me standing down there up the top of the North Island facing up with my hands cupped around my mouth shouting 'THANKS EVERYONE!'

Love, Mrs D xxx


  1. Thanks for the shout out, Mrs D!!! I don't deserve your wonderful praise, but thank you. I still suffer from "woe is me" syndrome, but I've learned to recognize the signs and take action to turn it around. Being an alcoholic, it's only natural for me to self-obsess on occasion. I also want to say that I am truly grateful for you and your blog, as you've already made a big difference in my recovery, Thank you!

  2. And thanks for your encouragement today, Mrs. D! It was deeply appreciated!

  3. Hahahaha!
    Love the "mememememememememememe"!!! So good!
    (I just told my therapist this week "I am SO sick of myself!!!" I feel like a navel-gazer - UGH!)
    So it was good to laugh about it for a minute.
    Thanks for sharing!

  4. 'Hi' from Appalachia :-)

  5. I too am so grateful to have found you and your honest and wonderfully written blog!

    Your last paragraph written in this post had me laughing out loud, from a heart bursting with joy and appreciation :))

    Lots of love to you, mrs D!

  6. Hi from wintery Suburbia in Canada. What you see as woe is me, I see as hope.

  7. I love the images of you saying hello from "down under"!!! A "thanks" and "hugs" right back to you from New York City!

  8. Hey! I thought it was all about Me. I always smile when I see your name in my comment box. I'm a little to the NE and waving right back at you.