Some people get sober and discover they're naturally introverted and happiest being cosy at home.
Some people get sober and realise they are naturally shy and stop trying to force themselves to be the life of the party in social situations.
Some people get sober and realise wine isn't the necessary ingredient in social situations and they're just as happy and chatty without it.
Some people can naturally do small talk. Some people can't. Taking alcohol away makes it plain which of those you are, and eventually… the more practice you get at being sober in social situations.. the happier you'll be being the natural you.
I've always admired people who can stay quiet and introverted in social situations and be comfortable with that. I think that's cool. We don't all have to sparkle and suck up all the oxygen. It takes all types.
If you can't do small talk well getting sober won't help you with that. But it'll make you more comfortable with that fact about yourself. I think it's all about becoming authentic.
The authentic you.
I love the word authentic. I love it. I love how it looks on the page, I love how it sounds, and I love what it means. There is nothing even the slightest bit bad about authenticity. I even love how you can turn it into a word that sounds like electricity…!
Taking the alcohol away just helps you figure out who the authentic you is. And don't you think when we're all sitting on our porches in our rocking chairs aged 80-ish looking back over our lives, the thing we''ll be most happy about is that we lived authentically? Lived comfortably as who we really are.
There are so many things I love about being sober. And there are some things that are still tricky (for me it's figuring out how to sit comfortably with uncomfortable emotions). But what I love most of all is that whether I'm up or down or happy or sad or stressed or chilled or laughing or crying, what I am being is authentic to me in that exact moment. And the more of those moments that I accumulate, the better I feel about myself.
Figuring me out.
Get sober folks. It's awesome.
And with that it's goodnight!!
Love, Mrs D xxx